The Dogmother Posted March 6, 2008 Share Posted March 6, 2008 ... why is it that no matter how old we are, and how old and frail our parents are; they still manage to make us feel like a 5 year old? My mother does this - 'have I got a clean handkerchief?' Well.... yes... I am 45 years old, I have aclean hanky, and have a child of my own.. Yes, I am also wearing clean knickers! Anyone else get this, or is it just Italian mothers? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Couperwife Posted March 6, 2008 Share Posted March 6, 2008 my mum still holds my hand when I cross a road im 33, she is 60 this month cathy x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chelsea Posted March 6, 2008 Share Posted March 6, 2008 my mum still warns me of the dangers of the internet, credit cards and loans! When she calls and leaves a message on my answer machine she still says "Hi, its only mummy here" Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mrs Webmuppet Posted March 6, 2008 Share Posted March 6, 2008 My Dad still thinks I am 17 and shouldn't be allowed to make any major decisions without consulting him...........I'm 42 and haven't lived at home for 20 years! He was rather miffed when we bought our current house 'cause he didn't get to inspect it before we bought it! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chickencam Posted March 6, 2008 Share Posted March 6, 2008 My mother likes to constantly point out my faults and how amazed she is that my children are fed and clothed, just because I had a messy room as a teenager. At least she lives far enough away not to see my ironing pile and the dust Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Blackrocksrock Posted March 6, 2008 Share Posted March 6, 2008 They are funny - please treasure these memories as they are not with us for ever - My mum died aged 95 and a half 4 years ago and still I was the child! - Its nice to remember though and at their age they can say anything - just anything at all and not be embarrassed!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Olly Posted March 6, 2008 Share Posted March 6, 2008 Ditto - treasure the memories, although I used to get embarrassed about the fact that my dad referred to me as 'Baby' when I was in my 40s! My eldest sister is coming for the weekend. I love her dearly, but she cannot forget that she is my Big Sister (she's twelve years older than me) and every other sentence will start with the words "If I were you, I would ..." and then the rest of the sentence is usually something faintly critical about what I eat, how I cook, or last time she visited, the size of my bin-liners! She even had the nerve to tell me I spent too much time on the computer. I don't know what she meant by that! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Clash City Rocker Posted March 6, 2008 Share Posted March 6, 2008 My Mum visits at least once every fortnight, she never comes without bringing cakes, Biscuits and usually a jar of something homemade (Thank you), I'm sure she thinks we don't know how or where to buy these things, or perhaps it's the cost she's worried about. Both of us working full time, Mum a pensioner!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Olly Posted March 6, 2008 Share Posted March 6, 2008 Actually, I think that's got a lot to do with wanting to feel useful. One of the hardest things as people get older is feeling that they haven't anything to contribute any more. My mum was always delighted to be asked to make a cake, or knit something - she said she felt she was just turning into a vegetable otherwise! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hillfamily Posted March 6, 2008 Share Posted March 6, 2008 No matter what age you are, you will always be the child and they will always be the parent Clare, I don't think it's just your mum...........my mum is just the same Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TrishY Posted March 6, 2008 Share Posted March 6, 2008 I get accused by my children of not letting them grow up. i say to them that children should be children for as long as possible - i then get "but mum I'm 21" they asked me last christmas to please not buy them Blue Peter annuals anymore as it was embarrassing to open in front of girlfriends - maybe they are growing up I'll tell them they are to treasure me when one of my sons found out i go on forums i got a lecture from him about the dangers of meeting people off the internet I wish my mum lived closer she is in kent Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scooby Posted March 6, 2008 Share Posted March 6, 2008 Believe me, all parents are the same. I'm not even going to tell my dad I've bought a roomba - the scorn and unsurpportiveness will be just too much to bear The fact that it will save me some time (I also do his cleaning and cooking for him) won't even register with him, he'll want to know exactly how much it cost and how I can possibly justify spending it (I'm an accountant)! At least when my mam was here, she used to be able to talk him round most things! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Egluntyne Posted March 6, 2008 Share Posted March 6, 2008 I am a poor little orphan. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BarbaraJ Posted March 6, 2008 Share Posted March 6, 2008 whats a roomba? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Egluntyne Posted March 6, 2008 Share Posted March 6, 2008 whats a roomba? See **this thread** Barbara. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
superjules Posted March 6, 2008 Share Posted March 6, 2008 I am a poor little orphan. Aw, poor you. Sorry to hear that. I may as well be, my parents cleared off to live in India and I've no idea where they are or how to get in touch with them. At least it's easier to explain to the kids why they never visit now they live on a different continent - it's nicer than the truth which is they're just not interested in being grandparents. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Egluntyne Posted March 6, 2008 Share Posted March 6, 2008 I am a poor little orphan. Aw, poor you. Sorry to hear that. I may as well be, my parents cleared off to live in India and I've no idea where they are or how to get in touch with them. At least it's easier to explain to the kids why they never visit now they live on a different continent - it's nicer than the truth which is they're just not interested in being grandparents. Oh dear Jules....that is sad. They are missing out on so much. Hippies? At my age it is not unusual to be a poor little orphan. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
feemcg Posted March 7, 2008 Share Posted March 7, 2008 I'm an 'orphan' too . I was very close to my dad and long for him to be here every day - to share in my delight at Emma passing her driving test, to hear the 'grown-up' little things that Anna says, and to 'share' the challenges my beautiful Eilidh brings. He adored my girls, and drove me mad with his 'dithering', but I loved him and miss him loads . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Egluntyne Posted March 7, 2008 Share Posted March 7, 2008 Same here Fee. My Dad leaves a gap that can never be filled, and never a day goes past when I don't think about him. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rhapsody Posted March 7, 2008 Share Posted March 7, 2008 Another omlet orphan, have been since I was 12 so I've missed out on quite a lot... To all you grown-up kids with over-parenting elderly parents I say -enjoy!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Dogmother Posted March 7, 2008 Author Share Posted March 7, 2008 Do you want to borrow my mother Rhapsody? ....you'd be most welcome Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tiggy Posted March 7, 2008 Share Posted March 7, 2008 I am a poor little orphan. Aw, poor you. Sorry to hear that. I may as well be, my parents cleared off to live in India and I've no idea where they are or how to get in touch with them. At least it's easier to explain to the kids why they never visit now they live on a different continent - it's nicer than the truth which is they're just not interested in being grandparents. Oh Eglutine, thats sad, my mom only lives about 20 miles away & I haven't seen or heard from her in over a year, my dad on the otherhand lives nearer & is on the phone every week, he is more like a mother hen, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Eyren Posted March 7, 2008 Share Posted March 7, 2008 I'm a semi-orphan - lost my mum four years ago, and not been close to my dad since I moved to live with her when I was a teenager. My mum was very much young-at-heart and more like a big sister in many ways, so she rarely fussed over me - we were far more likely to sit up late into the night drinking wine and nattering Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bronze Posted March 7, 2008 Share Posted March 7, 2008 I'm another whos parents are in distant climes. I miss them lots Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
clucky1 Posted March 7, 2008 Share Posted March 7, 2008 I have been moaning alot about my parents recently. But - at least they are there 'in sorts'. I will stop moaning about them (I will try) as I have them at least. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...