Purplemaniacs Posted March 3, 2012 Share Posted March 3, 2012 Poor you, I feel for you. You are in such a difficult position. But you are doing what your friend wants and are supporting her, so sorry that it is so hard on you. Hopefully she will be strong enough to meet and talk to you soon. Is there someone that you can confide in and talk things through? Chrissie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seagazer Posted March 3, 2012 Share Posted March 3, 2012 You are in a difficult position as Purplemaniac said. It is hard but you really have to go by how your friend wants to deal with this. I was told by a counsellor once after a friend had died, that sick people sometimes don't want to handle other peoples grief at their illness, as well as their own fear of it. Its all too much to handle. It is hard but as long as you are always there for her and that she knows that, you are being a comfort. Sending (((hugs))). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cheeky Chooky Posted March 3, 2012 Share Posted March 3, 2012 You mustn't forget to look after yourself and that includes your mental health. Maybe make an appointment with your GP and go and talk to him/her about how this is affecting you? *hug* Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chickendoodle Posted March 5, 2012 Share Posted March 5, 2012 How about having a chat with someone from MacMillan or Marie Curie? I am sure they must have support for friends and relatives of cancer sufferers - maybe someone you can talk to or an information leaflet they can give you? You are not being selfish - cancer affects everyone around the sufferer and you are perfectly entitled to feel really sad and scared as well. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
iar fach goch Posted March 5, 2012 Author Share Posted March 5, 2012 Been a better few days, have been very busy with the boys and various sports and musical events this weekend; work again until Thursday and am going to see the Wales v Italy game on Sat, so something to look forward to. The sun is shining, and my lovely friend has been in touch promising to meet up in the next couple of weeks, so hopefully we will both be able to help each other in the darker days ahead. Thank you for your kind words and advice, think I will get in touch with MacMillan if things don't improve, but am having a good day today, so fingers crossed. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kazmac Posted March 5, 2012 Share Posted March 5, 2012 That's great news. Glad you're having a good day xx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mollyripkim Posted March 5, 2012 Share Posted March 5, 2012 Just caught up with this post and just wanted to add my prayers and thoughts for you and your friend, life is so cruel at times. Sounds like you are doing all you can and I,m sure your friend appreciates you not pushing her and take things at her pace. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nickyu Posted March 5, 2012 Share Posted March 5, 2012 Such a impacting disease not only does it affect the person but all those around them, my Auntie Brenda died not so long ago from stomach cancer, she wasn't old and was health person who left a 22 year old daughter behind, she died not long after being diagnosed and I was with her as she slipped away, my tears of sadness turned to relief that she wasn't in pain anymore. I'm not sure what I'm trying to say but I shall say a prayer for you tonight that you find the strength to be a support network for the poorly person. I miss my auntie so much but I have 33 years of memories and I know she watches over me Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
iar fach goch Posted March 30, 2012 Author Share Posted March 30, 2012 Has been a better couple of weeks, had a lovely long chat last week, but this weekend is going to be difficult as my beautiful friend is getting married. Have spent the last couple of days just holding back the tears, and it's getting increasingly difficult. What is making it all the more difficult is how much my children are looking forward to the event as they have no idea why the wedding is taking place. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Groovychook Posted March 30, 2012 Share Posted March 30, 2012 Gosh, I really don't know what to say, only that I really feel for you and your poor friend. I hope you can find the strength to 'live in the moment' and celebrate her special day. I hope she has the day of her dreams. Hugs and lots of love to you. xxx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alis girls Posted March 30, 2012 Share Posted March 30, 2012 Hope it goes ok - means a lot to her obviously. I am sure you will get thro it and thinking of you. May it be a celebrationof her and her partners love for each other. Hugs Ali x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bluekarin Posted March 30, 2012 Share Posted March 30, 2012 I hope it goes well this weekend. Try and be strong - but I am not sure I could be. Be thinking of you (((hugs))) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alis girls Posted March 30, 2012 Share Posted March 30, 2012 Many years ago at The Royal Marsden I nursed a young woman in her 30's with terminal breast cancer. It was her wish to spend one last Christmas with her young child and OH. we managed it but it was heartbreaking - many a time one of us would come out from her room trying to compose ourselves. I think I left that ward before she died but people can be immensely resiliant - I really hope it goes well and I know we will all be thinking of you. I have never forgotten this woman and often wonder where that little girl is now - herself a young woman. God bless Ali x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cheeky Chooky Posted March 30, 2012 Share Posted March 30, 2012 Will be thinking of you all tomorrow *hug* Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Purplemaniacs Posted March 30, 2012 Share Posted March 30, 2012 I hope it goes well tomorrow. Thinking of you. Chrissie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sammiboo Posted March 31, 2012 Share Posted March 31, 2012 i hope the day is as special as your friend. big hugs xx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scubababe Posted March 31, 2012 Share Posted March 31, 2012 Prayers are with you all today. Hoping she has a special day & to give her strength for whatever lays ahead. ((hugs to you all)) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kazmac Posted March 31, 2012 Share Posted March 31, 2012 I'll be thinking of you all. I hope your friend has a truly special day and that it's everything she wants it to be. I'm sure it will be a very emotional day for you all, but it will be a day like no other. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alis girls Posted April 1, 2012 Share Posted April 1, 2012 Wondered how it went. Hope you are ok. Ali x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
iar fach goch Posted April 1, 2012 Author Share Posted April 1, 2012 Have just returned, having had an emotionally exhausting weekend. It was the perfect day, she had worked so hard getting everything just right. Only had one little blip when I had to leave to shed a few private tears, but the rest of the time was spent smiling, a day to be treasured. Thank you all for your kind thoughts. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Purplemaniacs Posted April 1, 2012 Share Posted April 1, 2012 I am so glad that it was a lovely day, one that I am sure her family and friends will treasure in their memories for ever. You must be exhausted hope you can have a relaxing afternoon. Chrissie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kazmac Posted April 1, 2012 Share Posted April 1, 2012 I'm really glad it was a lovely day and that you all enjoyed it (as much as you could under the circumstances). I hope you can get some time to recharge now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scubababe Posted April 1, 2012 Share Posted April 1, 2012 What ever happens you will always have such a lovely day to reflect on and treasure. Time for you to rest and gather strength for whatever the future holds. ((hugs)) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alis girls Posted April 1, 2012 Share Posted April 1, 2012 Ditto what everyone else has said - she has a lovely memory as does her husband. There was a sad case in the paper where a terminally ill young lady died before her wedding. So sad - hope your friend has some time to spend as a newly wed. Relax now - you must have been a great support to her. Love and hugs Ali Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Groovychook Posted April 1, 2012 Share Posted April 1, 2012 I'm so pleased that you all had a lovely day. Lots of love xx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
