Guest Posted October 15, 2008 Share Posted October 15, 2008 OK as most of you know James has a few problems, mainly to do with his speech but he also lacks concentration and his IEP says his fine motor skills are underdeveloped. The last one has lately been rather questionable but I don't say that to the school as the more he has down the more help he gets! I watched him working with Hama beads the other day and he had no problems getting them on the pegs - I find it horribly fiddly. He isn't without other problems though, he still soils himself semi regularly (last week in school and his teacher talked him through cleaning himself up and threw away his pants! Again today when I picked him up he was smelly and trying to hide it). When he is assessed they all seem to think it's odd that he doesn't play games or do puzzles. He just isn't interested as he is too busy making up the most wonderful imaginative games either from nowhere or based upon something that he has seen/done recently. Tonight he did his homework all by himself as it was something that grabbed his amazing imagination. Then when it was bedtime he was playing quietly on th floor with some lego. Its a basket of bits we got at a boot sale and has a lot of rather little pieces in. He played happily for about half hour then proudly showed me the house he had made - all by himself. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jackiepoppies Posted October 15, 2008 Share Posted October 15, 2008 Well done James I love the green roof.......it's my favourite colour Jackiex Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BERTIE MCSQUIRTY Posted October 15, 2008 Share Posted October 15, 2008 fab.......looks just like my home made coop Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Couperwife Posted October 15, 2008 Share Posted October 15, 2008 how fabulous hey, isnt your littley cute cathy x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rona Posted October 15, 2008 Share Posted October 15, 2008 Well done James You must be very proud of him. I don't know all the ins and outs of his problems but looks as if he is making progress at his own speed. Is it possible that he is way ahead of the field in some areas that aren't being measured? So maybe he is just too busy concentrating on these higher level thoughts to remember such mundane things as going to the toilet. I'm sure he'll get there in his own time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BeckyBoo Posted October 15, 2008 Share Posted October 15, 2008 What a good looking lad, you'll have to change your avatar now, he looks much cuter with his hen-house design than in the chicken suit! How old is he? Sometimes it makes me cross that they're all expected to achieve things to a certain "norm". Surely standards are only there because some people achieve them early, some later and some in the middle. I'm sure he'll get there when he's good and ready, just might not be when everyone else has. No wonder you're proud though, with all that going on, that's some house he built!! Mrs B Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Snowy Posted October 15, 2008 Share Posted October 15, 2008 Clever boy! Well done James! I agree with the above - I hate little ones being expected to all reach targets at the same time They all get there by the time they are 20 anyway Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Egluntyne Posted October 15, 2008 Share Posted October 15, 2008 Well done James. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KimmyCustard Posted October 15, 2008 Share Posted October 15, 2008 Love him, what a little sausage! Tell him to concentrate on his fantastic building skills and he can make me a house like that in the proper size! Clever boy. Kimmy x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ain't Nobody Here Posted October 15, 2008 Share Posted October 15, 2008 Well done, James . He is one beautiful boy . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ms Marple Posted October 15, 2008 Share Posted October 15, 2008 What a lovely, talented little boy! I remember a friend of my OS, now 20, as a little boy of 5 who frequently soiled - he just never deemed it important enough to go in time as he was always doing something far more important- cos that's what little boys need to do!! He grew out of it when he was ready to. It can be a control issue too - by that I mean his choice. Hope that doesn't sound odd. Vaguely similar theme, but a bit of a rant. YS, who is in yr12, came home from school today, saying that his art teacher makes him feel like a retard - his choice of word not mine. OS has his issues - don't we all in some way, had brain tumour at 8, which has affected his processing to a certain extent, but he got A*/A GCSEs!!!! I just don't think anyone should be made to feel uncomfortable, just because they are different in some way. That's the beauty of being human after all. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lesley Posted October 16, 2008 Share Posted October 16, 2008 Well done James! - I still can't make roofs in Lego! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Karen & co. Posted October 16, 2008 Share Posted October 16, 2008 What a fab house he has made lego roofs are so tricky too, I struggle helping my children Karen x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
moochoo Posted October 16, 2008 Share Posted October 16, 2008 Well done James. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tina C Posted October 16, 2008 Share Posted October 16, 2008 When he is assessed they all seem to think it's odd that he doesn't play games or do puzzles. He just isn't interested as he is too busy making up the most wonderful imaginative games either from nowhere or based upon something that he has seen/done recently. Nurture that side of him - or it may get lost somewhere along the line. He may like to do drama? My girl is similar and loves drama. And that is a great house! You are right to be proud. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
..lay a little egg for me Posted October 16, 2008 Share Posted October 16, 2008 fab.......looks just like my home made coop As soon as I saw it I thought...is that a chicken house? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seagazer Posted October 16, 2008 Share Posted October 16, 2008 Well done James Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Dogmother Posted October 16, 2008 Share Posted October 16, 2008 Well done James, that is sooo clever He's certainly bright as I found out when I met him! Big hugs to the wee fella. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chickencam Posted October 16, 2008 Share Posted October 16, 2008 Well done James Your son sounds so like my son, also called James, at the same age, his reception teacher was not impressed with him because he was a bit stinky sometimes and would wet himself occasionally too, she said he could 'fall over fresh air' had very poor fine motor skills and his social and communication skills were pretty much non existent. She grabbed me one morning when he had only been at school for about 6 weeks and told me that she thought he was dyspraxic (sp) I had to come home and look it up on the internet never having heard of it before, and I decided straight away that he wasn't. My James has never been one for conforming to the social norm, he has a quirky character and is very independent, he also has a wicked sense of humour. He has never liked doing something which he can't see the point of and a lot of the stuff they did in reception and yr 1 didn't really interest him. He had no problem building things and doing puzzles that he wanted to do. It wasn't until he reached yr 2 and got a teacher who understood what made him tick that he started to enjoy school and make friends. We kept telling the school that he was intelligent and just needed to have the reason for doing whatever they were doing explained to him in adult terms, but it wasn't until he came out in the top 2 or 3 in his year group when they did his CAT score in yr 5 that they sat up and took notice. Now he is at grammar school, and the school know that he there on his merits and they have others boys just like him, he gets much more help and encouragement and is now a very happy and rapidly maturing young man. Sorry for the length of this post but this is a subject very close to my heart. Stick with your instincts Pengy and believe in and fight for your son and he will get there in the end, if we were all the same the world would be a very dull place. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
little chickadee Posted October 16, 2008 Share Posted October 16, 2008 What a great house. My husband and I always say that it's great that our son was born to us as I have the skills as a trained teacher to help him. It would have been awful if he had been born to some of the parents at school who would have just shouted at him and told him he was stupid (which he isn't) Different is Different not wrong and it sounds like you're doing a great job. You have every right to be proud of him - he looks gorgeous. That reminds me - must nag school for a new IEP Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
keyhole kate Posted October 16, 2008 Share Posted October 16, 2008 He is a gorgeous little boy and totally unique perhaps he just dosen't like puzzles and games you cannot measure a childs development by siblings friends schoolfriends etc. All my 4 were all completly different to each other never mind anyone else If he is happy then excellent thats all any of us should want for our kids. As for the soiling I would just deal with it very matter of fact/lightheartedly he probably gets so engrossed in what he's doing that he leaves it too late thats all, perhaps give the school some spare clothes he will grow out of it in his own time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kitbag Posted October 16, 2008 Share Posted October 16, 2008 I dont think i could do that ! He is sssssooooo cute!! Bless Kitbag xxxxxxxxxxxxx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bronze Posted October 16, 2008 Share Posted October 16, 2008 he just never deemed it important enough to go in time as he was always doing something far more important- cos that's what little boys need to do!! l. That sounds familiar I know how you feel about children not fitting the 'norm' yet being incredibly bright. We are currently fighting for a paed phsychologist report for our eldest as hes so gifted at maths yet he frequently soils himself as theres other things just too important. I love the house. It must be for chickens. Maybe in 20 years time he'll be working fro omlet designing the eglu mark 14. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted October 16, 2008 Share Posted October 16, 2008 His school are great and very supportive. I keep on with the IEP's and everything as he so needs the extra help with his speech - he gets double frustrated when he can't make himself understood. His head wants to see him "unlocked", like me and his class teacher she knows it's all in there and we have to find the ways of getting it out. He's just sat here with me and we've looked at this thread and I've read him some of your comments. He is now saying we can put an advert on Ebay to say that James can make anything. He's clearly go an eye for marketing and is saying people have to know that he can make things! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Looney Posted October 16, 2008 Share Posted October 16, 2008 Clever Boy! Excellent Pengy no wonder you are proud (he's gorgeous as well!) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
