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[redhotchick]

Help!

 

I've started talking in my sleep recently; at least it's only been brought to my attention recently

 

Does anyone know how I can avoid this in future?

What are your thoughts on the effectiveness of the following;

Night nurse or something similar in the short term

Hypnosis

Yoga/relaxation such as a bath before bedtime

 

I have a lot on my mind on the moment. I guess that is contributing to it.

[Ain't Nobody Here]

What have you been saying?

 

We often tease ES about the night he suddenly shouted out "BARN" in his sleep .

 

Sorry, that's not helpful at all . I've no idea about how to prevent it .

[Phonix]

Ive got no suggestion but one of my friends used to do this when she was stressed out.

 

We went to Newcastle one year to do a big presentation and stayed in a hotel the night before and she was reciting her speech in her sleep but me hearing her speaking thought she was awake and practicing and started to talk to her and she answered...it wasn't until she started to say something REALLY odd that I realised she was actually asleep!

 

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[Valkyrie]

I'm not sure it can be controlled as such because it is your subconcious taking hold. It very likely is to do with worries - I apparently used to do it a lot while I was at school. My best one was having an argument with my brother in my sleep and being informed afterwards that I finished it with "Oh shut up"! I have woken myself up by yelling and one of those was "get out we're on fire". I have no idea what started that one off!

 

My brother only did it once and he was sleepwalking too. He was marching on the bed and when mum told him to get back down he told her "I've got to get to the top of the castle", so she said he could try later on but in the meantime lay down.

 

On a pony trekking holiday with a friend she blurted out "they're funny little men with funny hats". Hmmmm.

 

Perhaps you could try the relaxation methods, and maybe lavender oil on your pillow. Good luck, but sleep talking doesn't hurt you, so try not to worry about that too.

[Tessa the Duchess]

My elder son used to drive cars in his sleep with accompanying brrrrrrrm brrrrrrrm and screeching tyre noises thankfully he grew out of it.

 

Tessa

[Berkochicks]

Many years ago I went backpacking with a couple of friends. My friend also did the "Fire, fire" thing. It was in a dormitory of a youth hostel. The 11 other occupants weren't impressed.

 

When I had a few sleep issues some years ago, the sleep therapist told me to write my worries down before I went to bed. I had to keep the notebook by my bed and if I woke feeling anxious to again write down my anxieties. Not sure it helped directly but it may be worth trying. At some point I started sleeping through the night undisturbed , then I had children!

 

Donna

[..lay a little egg for me]

A chap I used to know used to act out his dreams and talk about what was happening. His wife discovered that if the bedroom was cool he didn't do it so much...just a thought...

[Egluntyne]

My menfolk all shout in their sleep (sometimes in English....sometimes in what sounds like Albanian) and the boys sleepwalk. Os hasn't for a while but YS still does.

 

Very odd and scary.

 

It certainly does seem worse if they are under any stress.

 

No helpful suggestions I'm afraid.

[Looney]

I had a conversation with my friend but both of us were asleep. There were a few of us staying over at another friend's house and they thought it was hilarious as although we were responding to each other we were obviously having completely different conversations. By all accounts she was saying "stop that" and I was responding with "don't put that there"

 

I have a few stories about OH sleepwalking. He mainly did it at my parents house so I think it was stress related! He gave himself a blackeye from opening a wardrobe door into his face - I think he was looking for the toilet....

 

He also went through a phase of waking up minus his pants and was convinced that it was our landlady Ping that was coming into the flat and removing them in the middle of the night. She lived across the other side of London I woke up in the middle of the night to see him dashing around naked, furiously searching the flat and when I asked him what he was doing he replied he was looking for Ping. The thing was he was looking in cupboards, down the side of the sofa and under the bed. I (being mean ) asked if she was down my side of the bed and he checked and stated "nope, you're ok" before carrying on! I still scream with laughter when I think of that!

[Chicken Licken]

I have always walked and talked in my sleep. (Now 35). I also fairly regulalry have night terrors about the ceiling falling in or the house falling down, and also about fire - it makes me feel anxious just to write them down bizarrely.

 

I can control the sleep talking by convincing myself before I go to sleep that I MUST NOT talk in my sleep, but it does not work in the long term. I just live with it. My OH now accepts that if I wake him shaking him to check he is still alive or tell him the ceiling is falling in and to hide that I am asleep and dreaming and to make soothing noises and tell me to go back to sleep.

 

Sorry not to be more use -I have not yet locked myself out of the house (although have come close a couple of times)

[Minnie the Moocher]

Writing things down can really help to reduce stress if you are the worrying kind.

 

An alternative is to have a 'Worries Box'. If you are stressed because you have too many things to do, you write each worry on a piece of paper and put it in the box to deal with later. Your subconscious mind is not then badgering you through the night to remember to do something.

[Cooks]

I have no idea how to help sorry, but I agree stress is a big factor so I've heard.

 

Hubby often yells out or jumps out, frightens the life out of me and I have no sypathy in the middle of the night

 

He once shouted at me to turn the tv off I wouldn't mind but it wasn't on and it was the middle of the night.

[Olly]

I've always talked in my sleep since childhood, I believe I still do it occasionally although there's usually "Ooops, word censored!"ody to tell me about it! Good 'sleep hygiene', i.e. a bedtime routine, not having the room too hot, and all the other suggestions on here may help, but why worry about it?

 

When you've got over whatever's on your mind, it will probably happen less often but I really don't think there is anything you can do to control it, and worrying about it will just add to your stresses.

[Redwing]

My husband and I used to sleep talk a lot (not to each other!)

 

He once sat bolt upright in his sleep and said in a posh voice (he is not posh) "You may be close to the sea Penguin but I am closer" - goodness knows what THAT was all about!

 

We used to have a laugh about it over breakfast but after a while we realised that something was not quite right and we knew we had to sort it out.

 

What stopped us was regulating the temperateure in our room, we now have a cool room with a warmer bed (thin duvet in cold weather and blankets)

 

Strangely I have also found that a feeling of being cocooned helps so we use heavy wool blankets as they are more weighty on us than a quilt would be.

 

A feeling of wellbeing helps so write down any chores before you go to bed so you dont have a restless night worrying about things that you need to do tomorrow.

 

We have a lot less to poke fun at each other about these days

[redhotchick]

Thanks for replies everyone, why worry about it? Well it's upset my OH this weekend and it breaks my heart to seee him so distressed.

 

It's occurred to me that the consumption of alcohol might be a factor. Has anybody any thoughts on that?

 

I'll try the telling myself "I must not talk in my sleep".

 

Most interesting Redwing. I was starting to worry about all the "cool room" advice. I can not sleep if I'm cold. Recently I have started having no heat on in the bedroom, but do have 2 duvets over me. I also feel that I sleep better if I feel cocooned and understand what you mean about having the weight of a blanket.

 

I need to get a bedtime routine going. I am up far too late too often.

On that note, I'm off to bed.

[Clur]

For me talking in my sleep is usually stress-related -- try writing down anything that's troubling you before going to bed. Also avoid alcohol before you go to sleep for a while to see if that makes a difference.

 

The more you worry about talking in your sleep, the more you'll probably do it. If that's the first time, put it down to a blip and try not to think about it. Not sure why your OH was upset, but reassure him that whatever you said isn't likely to relate to anything that's actually going on (I used to have terrible rows with people in my sleep and say horrible things, but luckily DH thought it more fun to bait me and listen to me go off on one!!!).

[chickenanne]

My husband sleep talks a lot, and sleep walks occasionally, if stressed... I do remember him waking me up to tell me he was going to hide in the wardrobe. He gets very stroppy if you wake him, and very upset if you aren't "nice enough" to him in getting him back to bed. He invariably regresses to the age of 5, which in some ways is reassuring as not many 5-year-olds decide to drive cars /play with kitchen knives/etc. I used to worry about him falling down the stairs or wahtever, but he never has.

Once you get used to it, it is just funny really, he does talk some rubbish. None of my friends mind him either, even with late-night visits from him to the spare room when they stay over, typically unclothed!

 

Reducing stress really helps limit it, but the best way is, ironically, seems to be not worrying about disturbed sleep /sleeptalking /etc!

 

I find the best way to deal with my OH sleepwalking /sleeptalking is to gently guide him back to bed, and not talking back - he will say anything at all, and it's as accurate a reflection of reality and true feelings as anyones dreams are .

[stoice]

. I also fairly regulalry have night terrors about the ceiling falling in or the house falling down, and also about fire - it makes me feel anxious just to write them down bizarrely.... My OH now accepts that if I wake him shaking him to check he is still alive or tell him the ceiling is falling in and to hide that I am asleep and dreaming and to make soothing noises and tell me to go back to sleep.

 

Very similar to me Chicken Licken

When i was younger my brother heard me talking in my sleep, he came in my room to talk to me and i managed to hold a whole conversation about sanding a piece of wood (?) with him. It was only when he laughed out load i woke up - totally confused and feeling angry.

 

It has now evolved. My poor OH must've thought I was nuts when it first happened. Usually occurs when I'm really tired, anxious or talking about my fear (Of spiders) during the day. Several occasions i have sat bolt upright screaming, flung the duvet off the bed because 'a spider' was in the duvet. It takes a good few minutes for me to calm down, usually my OH just sits with me for a bit then i wake up. I usually give him grief before then though. Feel really guilty even though I can't help it. (Still have to sleep with the duvet opening at the bottom of the bed or the thought of spiders escaping would trigger another terror ) I sound so neurotic don't i? Gave me the heebie jeebies seeing the clip from 'I'm a celebrity' with that spider in the night.

 

Both of us mumble stuff in our sleep. I think it's fairly common. Usually when we're over tired or stressed. Maybe some relaxation techniques or yoga or councelling would fix it but it doesn't seem to happen all the time. Interesting about the cool room though. Will give it a go. OH will be pleased he likes it cool whereas I hate draughts and could sleep on top of the radiator all night!

[Valkyrie]

One of the girls that I used to work with had a sleep problem - she enacted her dreams. The gene or whatever it is that stops you moving so much while you sleep didn't work very well with her. I remember her saying that her husband was often sporting bruises where she thrashed around, but the funniest was that she was dreaming she was diving in the sea and he told her she was doing all the swimming movements - arms and feet! Good job she didn't harpoon him!

[The Dogmother]

I used to sleep talk and dream heavily, but not these days. Rosie does though and you can have quite a sensible conversation with her when she's asleep.

[jlo]

DS used to sleep walk a lot. He would come into our room and ramble on a bit. When we told him to go back to bed he would wander back towards his room and then come back and ask, "But where is my bed?" He never remembered anything about it in the morning.

 

I remember at work ( in court) a bloke pleaded not guilty to drink driving on the basis that he was sleep walking at the time. I thought that it would be guffawed out of court but an expert did come and say that it was the case that, whilst over the limit, he had got out of bed, got dressed, found the keys to his car and driven for a couple of miles - all whilst asleep!

 

The guy was acquitted but his solicitor wasn't very happy with me when I suggested that he probably now had a duty to tell the DVLA that he had a problem that might mean that he could no longer have a licence!

 

Sorry I have no advice about your problem but it sounds as though it is quite a common one!