Chook n Boo Mum Posted February 15, 2009 Share Posted February 15, 2009 I can't add anything else, just more {{hugs}} for you all, Sha x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sheilaz Posted February 15, 2009 Share Posted February 15, 2009 Joo Joo, I'm so sorry to hear the news, you must be feeling devastated. Tons of love and sympathy from here. Maybe just holding Dad's hand & telling him how much you love him will be a comfort to him, and in the future you'll be glad to have had the chance. My heart goes out to you in this sadness, you're not alone, we really care. xx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted February 15, 2009 Share Posted February 15, 2009 Sorry to hear your sad news. Make sure you tell him how much you love him and just be there for him as much as you can. I know from personal experience just how hard this all is. Keep going and just offload on all of us if you need to. Take comfort from anyone who offers it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Egluntyne Posted February 15, 2009 Share Posted February 15, 2009 Very sorry to hear your news. It brought back a lot of memories about my Dad's last illness. You will find the strength from somewhere to get through it. It sounds as if he is being looked after by a caring team. Love to you and your family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
missuscluck Posted February 15, 2009 Share Posted February 15, 2009 Going to pm you jux Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chickweed Posted February 15, 2009 Share Posted February 15, 2009 I am writing this with tears in my eyes. I lost my Dad last year, and one week later my Mum passed away. The death of my mum was not a total shock (she was in the later stages of Alzheimer's disease), But like you, I had only days to absorb the news that my dad would not survive. He too was like your Dad in his final days, which was very upsetting. Tell him you love him. I know what you are going through, I am really sad for you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dancing cloud Posted February 15, 2009 Share Posted February 15, 2009 So sorry to hear what you're going through . Lots of ((hugs)) to you and yours. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chooklady Posted February 15, 2009 Share Posted February 15, 2009 I'm so sorry for you, I know the pain your feeling, it hurts so much, you cannot explain it. My aunt, who was like a second mum to me, we're only a small family, died Christmas 2007, she had lots of things wrong but the end was quite sudden and very stressful. My thoughts are with you. Nicola Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Goosey Lucy Posted February 15, 2009 Share Posted February 15, 2009 So sorry to hear about your Dad, love and hugs to you and Ashley x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Paola Posted February 15, 2009 Share Posted February 15, 2009 So sorry to hear your news Thoughts and love with you and your family xxxx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bantambabe Posted February 15, 2009 Share Posted February 15, 2009 So sorry Joojoo. Lost my dad very quickly 6 years ago and know how hard it is. I agree with what others have posted though - the nursing staff ought to be able to give him something to calm him. The only downside is that it will probably sedate him. My dad was very agitated and "scared" (his word) and they said it was very common and gave him something to settle him. He was peaceful then, but didn't wake again and we lost him 2 days later. Will be praying for you Debs Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Joojoo Posted February 15, 2009 Author Share Posted February 15, 2009 Thanks everyone for your kind thoughts and PMs. You've all been through some terribly sad times too with your families so I know I'm not alone. I've just got back from visiting Dad and he seemed a lot more "with it" this afternoon and tonight than he was this morning. It's just absolutely heartbreaking to see him so upset when you can't do anything about it. He couldn't remember seeing the consultant at all this morning and the doctor telling him what was wrong so I've told him tonight that it's diverticulitis and that he needs antibiotics to treat it. He asked if an operation was necessary so I've told him that they are going to treat it with the antibiotics first. He thinks that once the antibiotics start working that everything will be ok but obviously we know different and it's so hard to stay positive and put a smile on your face when it's tearing you up inside. As much as I love him and don't want to lose him, I just hope that he doesn't have to go through this for too long. I've asked the hospital to ring me in the night if he is agitated again as maybe I could calm him down over the phone or failing that I can go to him as I'm only 15 mins away. I can't stand feeling so helpless. If by my being there at 3am in the morning is comforting or reassuring to him then I'll do it for as long as it takes. xx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rona Posted February 15, 2009 Share Posted February 15, 2009 So sorry to hear about your dad, its just so sad that you have to go through this. Hugs and positive thoughts for you, your dad and DS. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mostin Posted February 15, 2009 Share Posted February 15, 2009 Big hugs to you Joojoo. Sending lots of energy to you to keep you going through this awful time. hope your dad has a peaceful night, and you both get some rest so tomorrow may be easier. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nutmeg Posted February 15, 2009 Share Posted February 15, 2009 So sorry to hear about your Dad, thinking of you all at this difficult time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nicki9 Posted February 15, 2009 Share Posted February 15, 2009 So sorry to hear about your Dad, sending ((((hugs)))) your way. x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lesley Posted February 16, 2009 Share Posted February 16, 2009 Such a difficult time for you Jue - (((big hugs))) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Redwing Posted February 16, 2009 Share Posted February 16, 2009 I'm so terribly sorry Joojoo, hugs x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gamebird Posted February 16, 2009 Share Posted February 16, 2009 So, so sorry, Jue. When they told me my Dad had only a few days to live I wasn't able to be with him which saddens me to this day. Hold his hand and tell him how much you love him. Thinking of you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Groovychook Posted February 16, 2009 Share Posted February 16, 2009 I'm so sorry Jue, Thinking of you and sending you love. xxx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jackiepoppies Posted February 16, 2009 Share Posted February 16, 2009 My thoughts are with you. Jackiex Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Clur Posted February 16, 2009 Share Posted February 16, 2009 Nothing I can say that hasn't been said here before, just wanted to add that my thoughts and prayers are with you too. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Yorkshire Pudding Posted February 16, 2009 Share Posted February 16, 2009 Dreadful news. Thinking of you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chickencam Posted February 16, 2009 Share Posted February 16, 2009 My thoughts are with you, take care and unload on here anytime. (((Hugs))) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fluffyfeet Posted February 16, 2009 Share Posted February 16, 2009 Thinking of you at this difficult time. Love and hugs Dawn x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
