BeckyBoo Posted March 10, 2009 Share Posted March 10, 2009 Oh my goodness, what a relief. Over the past weeks I've been paying things off, settling arrears, dealing with all sorts of financial stuff but I still wasn't really clear in my head wether or not I was going to be able to manage on my own. There's been ups and downs with his lordship, one minute we're talking the next it's all threats and abuse but finally, today, I had my appointment with the CAB. I'd filled in the paperwork they gave me, sat down with a VERY nice lady and went through everything and basically, if my Child Tax Credits EVER EVER come through and are in the region of what she thinks I'm entitled to, the I can do it. I can stay here. It'll be tight, no jetting off to Disneyland for us and there will be months I have NO doubt where I am ringing my Dad offering to take him to Sainsburys hoping he will foot my weekly shopping bill (which both he and my Mum have done in the past three months!) The relief is unbelievable. There is one outstanding financial matter that I am a third of the way through settling and CAB are helping me with that but she said I'd done extremely well to sort EVERYTHING else prior to going in to see them. I'm on the skive from work, well, not really, things DID finally get on top of me end of last week and I went to see the GP this morning. Offloaded the whole lot onto her and she just sat there and said "do you want a week or a fortnight?" I'd already spoken to work and they are fine with it, so not only am I probably going to be able to manage, independently, without ANYTHING from the ex, but I've got a couple of weeks breathing space to just sit back and take a few deep breaths before I feel like I'm actually taking my first REAL steps on my new life with my children and my animals. I can't tell you how incredible and liberating it feels. I'll never be rich but I don't care because I'll be doing it for us all by myself. And that feeling is actually allowing me to feel so much less resentful of him because it just goes to prove that I can do it! And so I'm really writing this to say thank you so so SO much to everyone who has read my rambles, tolerated my ranting and has taken the time to think of me and pass on good messages. Without my Mum and you lot it would have taken me ten times as long to get here and I probably wouldn't still be smiling. Sometimes, just sometimes, life isn't too bad after all BeckyBoo Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chelsea Posted March 10, 2009 Share Posted March 10, 2009 What great news BB and I have a lump in my throat reading your post, I can almost sense your relief! Its good you have some breathing space to sort yourself out. Stay positive and we all know you can get through this and even though you wont be rich you can enrich your life with other things (chickens, baking, enjoying time with the kids etc ) xx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Couperwife Posted March 10, 2009 Share Posted March 10, 2009 oh Becky what wonderful news, im so relieved for you. cathy x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Egluntyne Posted March 10, 2009 Share Posted March 10, 2009 Lovely to hear that the clouds are parting, Beckyboo. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Redwing Posted March 10, 2009 Share Posted March 10, 2009 Oh well done, it sounds like you have been very pratical and proactive with your finances! I am glad it all seems to be falling in to place sending lots of hugs x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Janty Posted March 10, 2009 Share Posted March 10, 2009 I'm so pleased for you. Well done. Jan Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Paola Posted March 10, 2009 Share Posted March 10, 2009 I am sooo pleased Beckyboo What a huge corner you have turned Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gamebird Posted March 10, 2009 Share Posted March 10, 2009 Well done Becky - you're on your way. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Olly Posted March 10, 2009 Share Posted March 10, 2009 Thank goodness - and well done, because it sounds like you were most of the way there before you got to the CAB. This is great, not only because you can sleep at night, but also because it lets you take control - and as you say, you instantly feel a lot less resentful. I'm sure your mum and dad will go on helping, that's what mums and dads do (and what you'd do for your children if they needed it). So pleased to hear things are going better for you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted March 10, 2009 Share Posted March 10, 2009 This is good news. You CAN be a strong independant woman! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tessa the Duchess Posted March 10, 2009 Share Posted March 10, 2009 That is wonderful news, I am so happy for you. Nice also that you have a bit of time off work GP's can be great! Tessa Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
feemcg Posted March 10, 2009 Share Posted March 10, 2009 That's great things are looking brighter...I've been there, done that and got a couple of t-shirts, and there is life after a*******s ....good for you for fighting on Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ClaireG Posted March 10, 2009 Share Posted March 10, 2009 I'm so glad Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bluekarin Posted March 10, 2009 Share Posted March 10, 2009 Thats fantastic news! So glad to read that things are finally going the right way for you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chickvic Posted March 10, 2009 Share Posted March 10, 2009 That's great news! What a relief for you and well done Don't underestimate yourself! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cooks Posted March 10, 2009 Share Posted March 10, 2009 great news Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lesley Posted March 10, 2009 Share Posted March 10, 2009 I'm so pleased that all is going well for you Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jackiepoppies Posted March 10, 2009 Share Posted March 10, 2009 OMG Becky, ............That is such positive news ...........good on you girl. When things were 'really nasty'in my life, (saves being edited) I always tried to look to the future and not bemoan the past. It worked.....most of the time Plod on.........no pun intended.........YOU WILL SURVIVE Jx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Looney Posted March 10, 2009 Share Posted March 10, 2009 As others have said, WELL DONE YOU! Who cares if you aren't rich, so long as you and your family are safe, fed and healthy You are a wonderful woman and mother. Make sure you get some proper breathing space - take a trip out to the middle of nowhere and take some really deep breaths, shout out any words that pop into your head and allow yourself to smile, laugh, cry and release any of the emotions you feel like letting loose on the fresh air and scenery! Well done again. You really deserve a bit of good fortune xxxx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
craftyhunnypie Posted March 10, 2009 Share Posted March 10, 2009 Well done you! I can't help singing ' sisters are doing it for themselves' whilst reading your post. You are one incredible woman! Emma.x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hillfamily Posted March 10, 2009 Share Posted March 10, 2009 Fabulous news Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Willow Posted March 10, 2009 Share Posted March 10, 2009 Well done Becky ! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mrs Webmuppet Posted March 10, 2009 Share Posted March 10, 2009 That's fantastic news. Enjoy your time off. Well done getting everything sorted out Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted March 10, 2009 Share Posted March 10, 2009 glad to hear thinga are on a more even keal xxxx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
theherd123 Posted March 10, 2009 Share Posted March 10, 2009 Good for you! Great news! Just keep on climbing those positive steps Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
