mullethunter Posted December 12, 2014 Share Posted December 12, 2014 So far in this last two months OH has the scary abdominal thing mentioned in an earlier thread (still undiagnosed), house buying is up and down (currently up except I forgot to tell mortgage company I have a large student loan), but now, just as things were sort of levelling out, OHs dad who has been in hospital with pneumonia for a week and we thought was improving, has had a stroke. Poor OH is in bits and I don't know how - if I can - to make him feel better Happy ******* Christmas. Sorry - I shouldn't bring you all down too - just needed to get it out. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ain't Nobody Here Posted December 12, 2014 Share Posted December 12, 2014 Oh dear, I'm very sorry to hear that . All those things would be stressful on their own, never mind at the same time . Hope OH's dad makes a quick recovery . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Olly Posted December 13, 2014 Share Posted December 13, 2014 Oh no - sorry to hear that. You can't make your OH feel better, but you can support him and help him to keep things in perspective. As ANH says, any one of those would be stressful. I hope his dad improves. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Dogmother Posted December 13, 2014 Share Posted December 13, 2014 (edited) I'm so sorry to hear that.... you can always come on here for a rant and sympathy; get that kettle on Olly Edited December 13, 2014 by Guest Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Egluntyne Posted December 13, 2014 Share Posted December 13, 2014 Sorry to hear it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gavclojak Posted December 13, 2014 Share Posted December 13, 2014 It always seems so much worse to have these trials and tribulation's at this time of year doesn't it. Fingers crossed for a fast and speedy recovery and look after yourself so you have the strength to look after every one else. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Daphne Posted December 13, 2014 Share Posted December 13, 2014 Just to say many of us know how you are feeling, so don't worry about letting it all out on here - we understand Illness is such a hard thing to deal with in our loved ones, it makes all the times we are fit and healthy all the more precious. I think all you can do is support your OH, take care of the practical stuff so he doesn't have to, and just be there for him to talk to/sound off at but don't take it too much to heart if he gets grumpy (perhaps that doesn't happen in your house!), he must be so worried. Let the house buying tick along in the background as much as you can, no sense in bringing in that extra stress onto yourselves if you don't have to. In the meantime, mine's a lapsang souchong Olly Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
freddie Posted December 13, 2014 Share Posted December 13, 2014 Sorry to heasr all your sadness, there is Never a good time, But, here is a great place to get help, support, and un-erring friendship. We all send our thoughts and wishes to you and yours through this time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mullethunter Posted December 13, 2014 Author Share Posted December 13, 2014 Thankyou all. take care of the practical stuff so he doesn't have to, - that is what I'm trying to do for him and his mum. don't take it too much to heart if he gets grumpy (perhaps that doesn't happen in your house!) Certainly does happen and no doubt will. This time he'll have good reason. At the moment though he's just very upset. Thankyou again - just hope his dad gets well Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Grandmashazzie Posted December 13, 2014 Share Posted December 13, 2014 So sorry,hope OH's dad makes a quick recovery and house sale goes smoothly.Take each day as it comes and try not to worry about the next. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
soapdragon Posted December 13, 2014 Share Posted December 13, 2014 So sorry to hear that things are not going so well for you at present.....hope things improve for you both in the very near future. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Valkyrie Posted December 19, 2014 Share Posted December 19, 2014 Wishing you all the best, speedy recovery for FIL, and take time out for yourself or you'll be ill too - and I agree with gavclojak. xxxx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Luvachicken Posted December 19, 2014 Share Posted December 19, 2014 Only just caught up with this. I just wanted to send some loving wishes and hope that your father-in-law gets well soon xxxx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mullethunter Posted December 20, 2014 Author Share Posted December 20, 2014 Thankyou everyone. Unfortunately he's not going to get better now. Yesterday he had a massive bleed to the brain stem. He's unconscious and they say in no pain, but there's nothing they can do. The person has gone and now we just wait for the body to go too. Beyond horrible. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lavenders_Blue Posted December 20, 2014 Share Posted December 20, 2014 So, so sorry to hear this Sending (((hugs))) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chickencam Posted December 20, 2014 Share Posted December 20, 2014 ((Hugs))) to you all Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ain't Nobody Here Posted December 20, 2014 Share Posted December 20, 2014 How awful, I'm so sorry . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dancing cloud Posted December 20, 2014 Share Posted December 20, 2014 ((hugs)) from me and mine too. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Dogmother Posted December 20, 2014 Share Posted December 20, 2014 I'm sorry to hear that; I hope that he has a peaceful and dignified passing. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gavclojak Posted December 20, 2014 Share Posted December 20, 2014 I'm truly sorry to hear your news. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bluekarin Posted December 20, 2014 Share Posted December 20, 2014 I am so sorry to hear your update. I am thinking of you all at this very hard time (((hugs))) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Daphne Posted December 20, 2014 Share Posted December 20, 2014 I'm so sorry Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Groovychook Posted December 20, 2014 Share Posted December 20, 2014 I'm so, so sorry. Such sad news Sending hugs xxx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mullethunter Posted December 21, 2014 Author Share Posted December 21, 2014 Thank you all - again. He died yesterday afternoon. Mercifully quick but so surreal - he seemed fine 3 weeks ago. Enjoy your family if you can and don't take anyone for granted x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Grandmashazzie Posted December 21, 2014 Share Posted December 21, 2014 Ah so sorry to hear this.So sad for you all. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
