Valkyrie Posted October 30, 2015 Share Posted October 30, 2015 You may never know how karma gets your brother, but now it's done and dusted you can start living. On the other hand the nasty person who stole your hubby's bike may well be riding it and crash into your brother - how they both end up is up to you! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Luvachicken Posted October 31, 2015 Share Posted October 31, 2015 You may never know how karma gets your brother, but now it's done and dusted you can start living. On the other hand the nasty person who stole your hubby's bike may well be riding it and crash into your brother - how they both end up is up to you! That would be karma indeed. I'm glad things are over for you now. Enjoy a fresh start and forget about him. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sparkysmum Posted October 31, 2015 Share Posted October 31, 2015 Be sure to look out for OH's bike on Gumtree or EBay. I remember a case in the last year or so where someone's stolen bike turned up on one of these sites and it was proven to be stolen and was returned to the owner. Ax Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ain't Nobody Here Posted November 1, 2015 Author Share Posted November 1, 2015 Yes, I've been looking there. No sign yet . The special school I've just left had 8 mountain bikes stolen from within a locked container a few weeks ago - it's unbelievable how low some people will go . The kids were really upset . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cat tails Posted November 1, 2015 Share Posted November 1, 2015 Gosh... Must be frustrating! I think you are overdue on some well earned goodness. Hope tides will turn for you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
patsylabrador Posted November 2, 2015 Share Posted November 2, 2015 What do you think you'll do now? Do you think you could go No Contact? There's always some collateral damage with that as I have learned. Good luck with the future. 're your OH's bike I really wish people would just leave other people alone. The only consolation is that scummy people often lead most unpleasant lives - you live by the sword kind of thing. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ain't Nobody Here Posted November 2, 2015 Author Share Posted November 2, 2015 No contact will be pretty easy - I've not set eyes on him for exactly 3 years (since I confronted him about mum's money) and he's ignored every email and text I've sent him (apart from one or two unpleasant responses.) He lives up in Nairn so there's no chance of bumping into him (thankfully). I have some contact with two of his kids and am in regular contact with his ex-wife (who shares my hatred of him, he treated her badly too). He's only visited mum twice since June so no danger of coming across him at the care home. The next time I see him will be at mum's funeral, I suspect. That's if he doesn't tell everyone I wouldn't let him go because he thinks I might blow his cover in front of everyone (although almost everybody knows already ). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JellyBean2605 Posted November 2, 2015 Share Posted November 2, 2015 Hows your Mum getting on in her new place? We've just moved my Gran into a care home and shes taken to it amazingly well! (Although we were helped out by her imaginary thief ) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ain't Nobody Here Posted November 2, 2015 Author Share Posted November 2, 2015 She hates it and moans constantly about being lonely and bored but refuses to take part in any activities . She falls out with people fairly regularly too. She constantly goes on about killing herself but this isn't anything new, she's being saying that for about 20 years . It's all in her head - the nursing home is lovely, the staff are all great and her "fellow prisoners" (her description) are all very sweet. On the plus side, it's great for me . I know she's safe, warm and fed properly and I don't get nearly the number of distressed calls that I used to. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JellyBean2605 Posted November 3, 2015 Share Posted November 3, 2015 Sadly this is a situation i come across very often, some people just refuse to attempt to mix and would rather be alone. Maybe one day she will be in a different frame of mind and give something a go. In the meantime you've done the right thing in securing her safety and well being in a place you have confidence in and saved your own sanity to boot. We never thought my gran would agree to go in a home as she called her warden controlled flat a care home and said we were monsters for making her move, she refused to integrate with her neighbours. Then she got convinced someone was breaking into her flat and moving things (her box of Christmas decorations was the last one) and then couldn't wait to move to the care home! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ain't Nobody Here Posted November 3, 2015 Author Share Posted November 3, 2015 I'm so glad she's settled in well! Makes visiting a lot more bearable . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ain't Nobody Here Posted November 23, 2015 Author Share Posted November 23, 2015 At every turn, my brother has lied, ignored me and my efforts in selling the house, failed to suffer any consequences or to even acknowledge his actions. He has now lied about the Lifetime Gifts he had (took) from my dad and even if I prove it with paperwork, it seems that both our legacies are affected. It's a complicated calculation which I can't get my head around. So I've decided that the only thing sensible thing to do is give up, move on and try to eradicate him from my memory. Except .... I have to confirm that I'm happy for the lawyers to proceed to conclude the matter and make the payments. I think that might take me quite some time . I'm not in desperate need of the money but I suspect he is . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WitchHazel Posted November 23, 2015 Share Posted November 23, 2015 Can't say I blame you Vicki Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
soapdragon Posted November 23, 2015 Share Posted November 23, 2015 If you think that he is desperate for the money but you are able to wait a bit perhaps you could 'misplace' the paperwork for a while.....just off to wash my mouth out with soap Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Charlottechicken Posted November 23, 2015 Share Posted November 23, 2015 ...and it's such a busy time for you, ANH. What with the new job, your op, and Christmas, it's so easy for things to slip your mind Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Valkyrie Posted November 23, 2015 Share Posted November 23, 2015 I love your cunning plan, Baldrick! Make him sweat for a while. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ain't Nobody Here Posted November 24, 2015 Author Share Posted November 24, 2015 I used to be called Baldrick in a job I had years ago - can't quite remember why . The lawyer is on holiday till 8th Dec so by the time she gets back into the swing of things, then Christmas, then New Year, then I'll have forgotten all about it .... then I'll need some time to think about it. Oh dear, it could take months . We'll see how long it takes him to get in touch to ask where his £200k is . I just hope they actually need my agreement to wind up the estate. Otherwise it's all in vain . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ursula123 Posted November 24, 2015 Share Posted November 24, 2015 My mum died in 2007 and left a clause in her will that I had two years to decide if I wanted to buy my brother and sister out of the house she left between the three of us. I had already discussed this with my mum and told her I would buy the house when the time came, but strangely I kept forgetting to tell the solicitor and left it until one year 363 days and then it took another year to go through and by the time as an executor I managed to sort everything out, my nasty sister had to wait nearly four years. My brother was in complete agreement with me and we had quite a chuckle that our sister would be fuming. I think when I received a letter from her solicitor that she 'had been left destitute' after mum died this helped me drag my heels more and make me determined to make her wait. my father always said you can choose your friends but not your family and I am so grateful she is now out of my life. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ain't Nobody Here Posted November 24, 2015 Author Share Posted November 24, 2015 I like your style . Four years - that would be sweet revenge indeed . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alis girls Posted November 24, 2015 Share Posted November 24, 2015 Women after my own heart. Mine and OH's family make the Ewings (Dallas a TV programme of yrs ago for the babes on the forum) look like pussycats. I made the mistake of saying to my aunt whose husband is still in hosp (see my fraught thread) that had so and so been in to see him. it appears they dont talk to them anymore and no one told me . I am wondering if when my aunt and uncle they pass away I will have any trouble as I am executar. OH's dad left everyone thing to 2 of his sons who looked after him and didnt bother with the other cos he'd married a wealthy woman and did sod all for him . Of course the brother was always pleading poverty so told OH to stop calling him. My cousin (2nd) who passed away 3 yrs ago informed me many yrs back that she'd left me some jewellery and an ornament in her will. Her husabnd died suddenly last week. I suspect I wont ever see any of this stuff as it was second marriage for both and his daughter and my cousin didnt always see eye to eye. I would like a keepsake but am not holding my breath. Weddings, funerals bring out the worse in humans - believe I know. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ain't Nobody Here Posted December 23, 2015 Author Share Posted December 23, 2015 Sadly, my evil plan hasn't worked - I received my cheque today. Although it was very nice to receive the money, it was spoiled somewhat by the knowledge that my brother has received 5 1/2 times the amount I got. So I suppose that's the end of it. He's got away with theft and abuse of our vulnerable, elderly parents and has inherited a sizeable fortune on top of the sizeable fortune he'd already helped himself to. I've got to let go and move on and try to take comfort from the fact that I haven't lied to, manipulated or stolen from my parents, unlike him, and I still take care of my mum, unlike him. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Luvachicken Posted December 23, 2015 Share Posted December 23, 2015 I'm glad it is all over for you now but sorry that he got the amount of money he did. The one thing is that you'll know that you'll be happy, and like you say you never lied, cheated or stole, or manipulated. Your brother on the other hand will never be happy because he is greedy and he DID lie, cheat, steal etc. Sending you a big hug xx You are well rid. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JellyBean2605 Posted December 24, 2015 Share Posted December 24, 2015 Well said Now you can write him out of your life and move on, focus on the more important things such as your family. He may still pop up from time to time but now theres nothing binding you and your mum to him. Have a glass of wine and an excellent Christmas to celebrate! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Valkyrie Posted December 24, 2015 Share Posted December 24, 2015 FREEEEEEEEEDOMMMMMM! Now your life really begins. Good riddance to the bad rubbish and you can hold your head high that you have behaved impeccably whilst he will be a miserable and lonely old man. Hurtful about the inheritance but you have to consider it was money well spent on your behalf to get rid of him. xxxxxx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sparkysmum Posted December 24, 2015 Share Posted December 24, 2015 Oh ANH, I am so sorry to read this. You can hold your head high, knowing that you have done your utmost to conduct yourself honourably in all of this. Although he has aquired a large some of money he has done so by lying and cheating. No good will come to him. I do believe that " what goes around comes around" and his benefits will only be passing. You never know what the future holds for him. Perhaps he will come back as a slug Wishing you a very happy day tomorrow Axx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
