Mel (& Paul) Posted December 31, 2005 Share Posted December 31, 2005 Ok This is hard, but I wanted to share this with you guys. As you know Paul's mum stayed with us over Christmas. And despite my references to MIL she was, actually, very good and we had a good time. particularly on Boxing Day when she was laughing and joking and being the life and soul. On Tuesday she came down complaining that she couldnt catch her breath and that her back hurt. After calling the NHS helpline an ambulance was called and she was taken into Poole Hospital. She had pneumonia and was kept on the assessment ward until Wednesday. She was then transferred to the Coronary Care Unit as she was poorly and needed more care. At 9 that night she was transferred to Intensive CAre unit and put on a ventilator. On Thursday the consultant told us she would not recover and we had to give our permission for the treatment to be stopped and the ventilator turned off. We wwere with her when she died. Paul is now in Yeovil sorting out her stuff - she lived in rented sheltered accomodation and the Housing Association has given us until Monday 9th to clear the house. The funeral is down in Poole on Thursday at 3.30 and there is a memorial service so that the residents in the sheltered houses can pay their respects, in Yeovil on Friday at 3.30. Can you guys send me and Paul lots of positive thoughts on those days. We are still kind of walking round in a daze and having to sort so much out. Paul's dad died on 12th January 2005 so it has been a really hard year for him and I am doing my best but he is really knocked sideways so any positive thoughts / prayers etc would be really welcomed. Thanks Guys Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cinnamon Posted December 31, 2005 Share Posted December 31, 2005 Oh Mel, I am so sorry. Your poor things - to lose a loved one at any time of year is hard, but over Christmas must be unbearable. And having to clear her things out of the house so quickly must be terrible. Positive thoughts & cyber smiles on their way to you from us here in Henley. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mrs Frugal Posted December 31, 2005 Share Posted December 31, 2005 Oh Mel, I'm so sorry. What a terrible time for you both. It doesn't matter how you feel about someone, having them die is still tragic, especially at Christmas. Be strong for Paul - this must be desperately sad for him. Huge hugs to you from all of us. Lots of love xxx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lesley Posted December 31, 2005 Share Posted December 31, 2005 Mel and Paul - what awful news, you must be feeling terrible. It is good that she enjoyed her Christmas with you and was the life and soul on Boxing Day. When you have time to reflect, it is these good memories which will stay. Hugs to both of you through this difficult time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nicola H Posted December 31, 2005 Share Posted December 31, 2005 Mel and Paul I am so sorry to hear your news just to say my thoughts are with you and lots of cyber hugs too..........Be strong for Paul, Mel and I am sure you will get through this difficult time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Beauty-Box Posted December 31, 2005 Share Posted December 31, 2005 (edited) Oh Mel and Paul, I am so sorry to hear your tragic news, it must have been hard writing your post. Try and keep strong even though it may be hard just to live day to day. Also remember the good times you had and how Pauls mum spent her last hours with people she loved. I am sending hugs to you both, Love from Rebecca.x Edited December 31, 2005 by Guest Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mrsnesbitt Posted December 31, 2005 Share Posted December 31, 2005 Oh dear mel, sending you both hugs. Dxxx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ali-s Posted December 31, 2005 Share Posted December 31, 2005 Thinking of both of you at this difficult time. Hugs coming your way from Scotland. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bracken Posted December 31, 2005 Share Posted December 31, 2005 Sending you loving thoughts at this so very sad time. It is difficult losing loved ones,but it is even worse at this time of year. Lots of love and hugs being sent your way. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cate in NZ Posted December 31, 2005 Share Posted December 31, 2005 Mel, hugs & condolences, prayers and all are being sent for you. What a terrible end to Christmas, and so hard for Paul. It is so sad, but how nice that you had a good time with her over Christmas, and that she was with people that she loved. I hope the house-clearing and funeral go well. I'll be thinking of you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sophieam101 Posted December 31, 2005 Share Posted December 31, 2005 i am so sorry to hear this news, postive thoughts going your way Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
buffie Posted December 31, 2005 Share Posted December 31, 2005 Love and positive thoughts to you both, so very sorry. She spent her last special moments with you and you can treasure that I am sure. Perhaps you can plant something for her in the spring a constant reminder for you both. Thinking of you Jayne xx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sheilaz Posted January 1, 2006 Share Posted January 1, 2006 Oh Mel, How awful for you both, my heart goes out to you. You must be numb with the shock, yet so much to do as well. It's really very special that she spent those lovely days with you, and also that you could be there when she died. Harder to take at the time, but very important & precious. Really appreciate your posting, & send you both tons of care & support. You & Paul will be in my thoughts & prayers all week, try & stay strong for each other. xx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Richard and Jo Posted January 1, 2006 Share Posted January 1, 2006 Mel and Paul Sorry to hear your sad news. Hope 2006 brings you better times. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
El Jefe Posted January 1, 2006 Share Posted January 1, 2006 Just wanted to add my sympathies - thinking of you both. I'm sure it will be of comfort in the future to think what a fabulous time she had at Christmas with you all. Good luck for 2006 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Karen & co. Posted January 1, 2006 Share Posted January 1, 2006 Much love and special thoughts to you both, will be thinking of you over the next few difficult days. Karen x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lesley-Jean Posted January 1, 2006 Share Posted January 1, 2006 It's always very sad when a loved one dies It sounds as though you gave her a happy Christmas which must make you feel good It is a hard time working through the things which have to be done, but in a while you will be able to remember all of the good times instead of the heart ache now. KEEP STRONG (If there was a hug emoticon it would go here) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted January 1, 2006 Share Posted January 1, 2006 Just wanted to add our sympathies. We're sending our love and thoughts at this horrible time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted January 1, 2006 Share Posted January 1, 2006 Mel, I'm sorry I haven't seen this sooner. I am SO sorry to hear this very sad news. I will be thinking of you both, especially on Thursday and Friday. Boxing Day was a wonderful gift that you will be able to treasure through the next few weeks and beyond, but right now things must feel very empty for you both. Lots of love to both of you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popcorn Posted January 1, 2006 Share Posted January 1, 2006 Dear Mel, I'm sorry too that I have only just read your post and was not around to send you some big cyber hugs last week. I hope these late ones will be ok to send you both now. Thinking of you and Paul at this very sad time, and hoping the sun comes out for you both soon. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Dogmother Posted January 1, 2006 Share Posted January 1, 2006 Mel and Paul I am so sorry not to have seen this sooner and added my condolences too. What a dreadful thing to happen, and so sudden too It sounds like her last days with you were happy though and that she enjoyed herself at Christmas. Mel, be strong for Paul - he will need you so much now and over the next week. I am sending big hugs and kisses to you both from all of us. Take care of yourselves, and I hope that 2006 will improve for you. I hope that you still have my number if you need to blub over the phone, if not, just PM me. Loads of love and positive thoughts coming your way Clare XXXOOOXXX Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chunkin Posted January 2, 2006 Share Posted January 2, 2006 Oh Mel I am so sorry to hear your sad news. What a shock for you and hardly time to catch your breath with such a short deadline imposed at the flat. It sounds like you shared a very special time at Christmas and on Boxing Day and I hope you can soon think of these things rather than getting through the next week. I will be thinking of you both and sending my very best positive thoughts. Much love Carol x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SarahJo Posted January 2, 2006 Share Posted January 2, 2006 Sorry to hear your news Mel. Last year my great Aunt died on the 23rd Dec, and my Brother in Law on Christmas day, early evening. I know how you feel in some respects, and its very hard especially when its such a family orientated time. I will be thinking of you this week ... try to be good to Paul and Vice versa, you still have each other to support, and be good to yourself too. Love and prayers come with this post. .... SarahJo xxx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rachel19 Posted January 2, 2006 Share Posted January 2, 2006 Im really sorry to hear your news. My grandma died 9 weeks ago and my dad died 7 weeks ago yesterday so we had a bit of a "Ooops, word censored!" christmas and new year too. It's always around the holidays . Its nice to know that she had a lovely christmas with you and you will have nice memories of that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mrs Blue Sky Posted January 2, 2006 Share Posted January 2, 2006 We've just got back from hols and read your sad news Mel. Poor you, and poor Paul too. Well done for giving her a wonderful Christmas. We will be thinking of you both on Thursday, and Friday too, sending good vibes and prayers for strength to get through the horrible practicalities that have to be done. Lots of love to you Heather and John Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
