patsylabrador Posted November 22, 2011 Share Posted November 22, 2011 I have never liked this phrase but especially now. My mum who is in her seventies, gets a lot of pleasure from making Christmas puddings for us, her 'kids'. She does her own Heston type recipe & caramelizes oranges and everything. It gives her a lot of pleasure and us too as the puddings are lovely. At the end of her aerobics session! she told some woman that she had to get home to mix her puddings, the woman apparently said quite sarcastically that my mum should 'get a life'. She has no idea how hard my mum has worked to raise and support her big family, she's never stopped, even now. She was insulted by this comment and rightly so. I remember her and my dad finishing their day jobs and then dragging us all to the local farms to pick potatoes, I thought I was tired but they must have b een exhausted. I think its a stupid, thoughtless easily said comment. Rant over - just cross for my mum. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ain't Nobody Here Posted November 22, 2011 Share Posted November 22, 2011 How rude . Your mum sounds fantastic - I bet it's that sarky woman who has no life . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bluekarin Posted November 22, 2011 Share Posted November 22, 2011 How very dare she! Bet she is the one who needs to get a life! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pipichick Posted November 22, 2011 Share Posted November 22, 2011 It sounds to me your Mum has a fab life, and making christmas puds for her family is something we should all find the time for. I would be comforted by the fact someone's cage has obviously been rattled. This aerobics woman clearly has no soul Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lavenders_Blue Posted November 22, 2011 Share Posted November 22, 2011 I'm not surprised that your Mum was insulted by such a rude and thoughtless comment. The puddings sound absolutely wonderful! A bit of jealousy perhaps? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Willow Posted November 22, 2011 Share Posted November 22, 2011 How horrible some people are Your mums puddings sound lovely (don't suppose she'd release the recipe) and a life of working and giving pleasure to your family is a very good life to have Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LolaLayla Posted November 22, 2011 Share Posted November 22, 2011 Some people have no understanding of how other people tick. Your mum obviously enjoys making something that you all appreciate. I think as someone else said the 'lady' was probably jealous, but what a horrid thing to say A lot of us on the forum can understand how your mum feels about cooking as I think a many of us get pleasure from what may be seen by some as simple things e.g. nature, our animals, things we make, gardening etc. I had a similar comment from a high powered business woman who is never at home and cannot understand how anyone could spend time as I do. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
memphisto Posted November 22, 2011 Share Posted November 22, 2011 I suggest the person who made that horrible comment to your Mum is the one who needs a life, what a horrible thing to say. I'm in awe of people, like your Mum who go out of their way to do simple, thoughtful things for others. I bet she works tirelessly to ensure everyone gets one. I am very envious of the sound of the recipe, it sounds lovely. Please don't allow this petty woman, who probably is just jealous, to spoil something your family gets a lot of pleasure from. I for one am extremely envious of your Mum's baking skills, I'd love to make Christmas puddings like that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Plum Posted November 22, 2011 Share Posted November 22, 2011 70s aerobics and puddings, she's got a life tell her she's fab Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sam Posted November 22, 2011 Share Posted November 22, 2011 Can I be in your family? She sounds great! What a rude and thoughtless thing to say Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pips_pekins Posted November 23, 2011 Share Posted November 23, 2011 I agree with what everyone has written here. Your mum sounds amazing. Clearly, this other woman not only needs to get a life but acquire some manners pdq. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Egluntyne Posted November 23, 2011 Share Posted November 23, 2011 Unbelievable. *tuts* I hope when I'm in my 70's that I will still be making puddings, going to aerobics (well, maybe not aerobics, but certainly Yoga classes) and keeping chickens. The episode says far more about the rude woman than it does about your mother. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seagazer Posted November 23, 2011 Share Posted November 23, 2011 I agree with everyone else, how rude, she probably is jealous. I hope your mum carries on with the exercising and pudding making for many, many years to come. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alis girls Posted November 23, 2011 Share Posted November 23, 2011 Your mum sounds lovely and I am sure she can rise above it - she is one of many who love to do their own puds - so maybe I should get a life too. Stupid woman -any chance of the recipe Patsy - I have a lot of maturer ladies and gents (as patients) who put the youngsters to shame - go Patsy's mum and dont forget recipe. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Space Chick Posted November 23, 2011 Share Posted November 23, 2011 It sounds to me that your Mum HAS a life... and a good one... doing things she enjoys and surrounded by people she loves. As the saying goes "Nowt as strange as folk"... the aerobics lady obviously has a differing set of priorities... which is fine, but who is she to judge your Mum's choices Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
donald Posted November 23, 2011 Share Posted November 23, 2011 My gut instinct here is the other person is completely Jealous. Your mum is happy with "her lot"(sorry) and has something to do that she enjoys. The other probably has nothing worthwhile to go back to. I remember being astounded when someone picked up on that I mentioned my husband in my conversations a lot. Might not be the same phrase but I hate being asked about my partner as if I am some member of the wild west. Sounds like your mum is happy and it sounds just like the kind of thing I enjoy doing, just had the conversation with a lot of nurses yesterday and we were all agreeing we love being at home the most! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Beaky Posted November 23, 2011 Share Posted November 23, 2011 What a mindless and rude thing for her to have said! Agree with my fellow commenters, it sounds like your mum has a fantastic life and is a real "do-er". Such a wanton act of meanness! Shame on that lady! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Looney Posted November 23, 2011 Share Posted November 23, 2011 I'm afraid I have had this comment said to me on several occasions and the person making it usually (not always) says it as a flippant remark not realising that actually it can be quite offensive. It is said all to often as a sort of joke, one that misses the mark, but without any real intention to offend from the giver. Unfortunately some people don't think before they speak Your mum sounds amazing, perhaps the other lady was going to do something really amazing and "lifeworthy" like erm, go home and watch the telly?! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Dogmother Posted November 23, 2011 Share Posted November 23, 2011 Couldn't agree more with the posts above - give you lovely Mum a hug and tell her not to change... ever! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Margalot Posted November 23, 2011 Share Posted November 23, 2011 I agree with everyones post also, How rude, its a shame though because what may be a flippant comment can really hurt some people. I had a comment made to me about 5 years ago and it really upset me! I dwell on what is said to me and got quite down about it thinking it over and over again. People dont realise how much a "little" comment can affect someones day and make them feel horrible. I agree that the other perosn is probably jealous, what a snidey thing to say Maybe get your lovely Mum to read these posts and then she will realise this other person is alone in their small minded judgement!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chickencam Posted November 23, 2011 Share Posted November 23, 2011 We are all individuals and thankfully like doing very different things, the world would be a boring place otherwise. It is usually the people with empty lives who are critical of how others live theirs. It sounds like your mum has led a very fullfilling life and is continuing to do so and long may she continue. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
foulbird Posted November 23, 2011 Share Posted November 23, 2011 oh... sounds as if that woman is jealous because: she doesn't have a mum like yours she can't make puddings she's probably on the kind of obsessive diet which doesn't allow puddings I may be wrong but... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mercedes55 Posted November 23, 2011 Share Posted November 23, 2011 70s aerobics and puddings, she's got a life tell her she's fab Absolutely Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Dogmother Posted November 23, 2011 Share Posted November 23, 2011 I think she ought to take one of her delicious puddings in for this 'lady' to try Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
patsylabrador Posted November 23, 2011 Author Share Posted November 23, 2011 Thank you everyone for your nice comments and as always your support is much appreciated. Chatted to mum, she liked the things you said. As for the recipe it's a pretty basic one, my mum's personal preference is to not use flour or currants and to use a lot of alcohol. My daughter says her puddings are usually the most flammable things in the house. She pours boiling water over the oranges and leaves them to soak for ages, then simmers them for quite some time in a water/sugar syrup until she thinks they're done. That's it. She likes to use the orangey syrup in their Christmas punch. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
