lillybettybabs Posted September 14, 2014 Share Posted September 14, 2014 I haven't posted for a while, I've been having toe most surreal and horrid time i could ever imagine. 3months ago i found out that my now ex was having an online relationship with a failing 23year old American model. He has spent thousands on her and no she isn't a scam as they are in Ireland at the moment and she has posted photos that he has taken of her. He told me back in June that he will have to do lots of business trips to the US and that he needed my support... turns out his plans were to keep me here looking after his dogs and the house whilst he was out there with his new woman. Now i have scuppered that plan he has got very nasty to the point the police were involved. As we are not married i am not sure how i stand with sorting the house out etc. Advice greatly received. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Egluntyne Posted September 14, 2014 Share Posted September 14, 2014 Sorry to hear about your troubles LLb. Your ex is a forum member as he used to post occasionally. I would play your cards close to your chest and not give too much detail here, as he may log on. All the best. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lillybettybabs Posted September 14, 2014 Author Share Posted September 14, 2014 Yes i will, i doubt he will view on here. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
patsylabrador Posted September 14, 2014 Share Posted September 14, 2014 That's horrible and also sneaky. Good luck getting everything sorted. It's sad the way people treat people that trust them and makes it hard to trust again. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gavclojak Posted September 14, 2014 Share Posted September 14, 2014 A close friend If mine had something similar. My pal is stunning and when she met, we shall call him she had a house and he had nothing, he was pig ugly and arrogant and we were all shocked but she was happy so that was all good. Fast forward two years later he got a lucky break and made a fortune, they brought a lovely house together and seemed happy......after one of his many "business trips" to USA, my friend decided to surprise him at the airport....we wasn't on the flight.....it turns out he was spending all his time in Spain with a Russian woman....she was super stunning and was boxing well above his weight.... 3 years on they are all fairly friendly, pal had moved to Spain and and the Russian are still together. Luckily they were married so she got what she rightly deserved, no more, no less, in fact she was incredibly fair, but as an unmarried I unfortunately I think you have a battle on your hands for any security unless you have a joint mortgage, but I am by no means an expert. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lillybettybabs Posted September 14, 2014 Author Share Posted September 14, 2014 sounds similar, I have scuppered his plans to keep the little woman at home. He is pretending to be richer than he is to get her. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bluekarin Posted September 14, 2014 Share Posted September 14, 2014 I haven't got any advice, just wanted to say how awful! What an utter......, well, I can't say what I'd like as it's a family forum so shall say cad! I think some solicitors do a free hour for advice, which might be worth taking up to see where you stand. Did you own the house you both lived in or was it a rental? That's something that they would help with sorting out. It is very sad it has come to needing the police as he is being so aggressive. I do hope things sort themselves out. I wish you all the best and we are all here for you to rant away x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Grandmashazzie Posted September 14, 2014 Share Posted September 14, 2014 I am no expert either,a friend had lived with her partner for 10 years had two kids and a house.When they broke up she had a battle to get what was rightfully hers but she did in end.I would suggest getting a good solicitor.Also any proof you have been paying mortgage/ rent, bills etc.Sorry to hear of this and good luck. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gavclojak Posted September 14, 2014 Share Posted September 14, 2014 sounds similar, I have scuppered his plans to keep the little woman at home. He is pretending to be richer thanhe is to get her. Funny enough, this one was a Russian art dealer and was super wealthy and very pretty....I just don't get it, must be the luckiest guy in the world, I jest you not when I say he was pig ugly...all sweaty and bald.....not an attractive bald, that kind of hanging on to the last few follicles kind of bald.....me and my friend joked he must have huge feet Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
soapdragon Posted September 14, 2014 Share Posted September 14, 2014 So sorry to hear of your troubles, LLB. Very good advice about having an initial free consultation with a solicitor....it will give you a good idea of where you stand and how to proceed. Good luck. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Dogmother Posted September 14, 2014 Share Posted September 14, 2014 LBB has been through an absolutely horrid time; I shan't reveal any details, but she has seen a solicitor and is getting herself sorted. Poor girl hasn't been able to get into her own house as the police advised that she moved away for a bit and changed all her contact details. See you later K? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mollyripkim Posted September 14, 2014 Share Posted September 14, 2014 I'm so sorry, no advice either, just wanted to say chin up and hope everything pans out in the end. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Groovychook Posted September 14, 2014 Share Posted September 14, 2014 Me too... sorry you're going through such a rough time Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lavenders_Blue Posted September 14, 2014 Share Posted September 14, 2014 Oh goodness me, no advice here either. I was going to suggest consulting a solicitor too but it looks like you've already done that. Other than that, all I can say is stay strong. Easier said than done but I'm sure you've got family and friends who will be there to support you all the way, remember that everyone (except him) will be on your side. Good luck with getting everything sorted. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Eggasperated Posted September 14, 2014 Share Posted September 14, 2014 So sorry to hear this LBB, hope you've got what Mumsnet call a SHL (s... hot lawyer). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cat tails Posted September 14, 2014 Share Posted September 14, 2014 Wow.... How aweful! Here in the Netherlands the rules are quite clear. If you vpcan prove you've shared a household together for some time (payed bills, joined account, purchases you did together) you are entitled to part of that household. If not in items, then in a cash amount. But not many people go all the way of claiming this, I think. Ypu could always ask legal counsil. Here in Holland we have these pro bono agencies that offer free advice and legal aid against a fair rate. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ain't Nobody Here Posted September 14, 2014 Share Posted September 14, 2014 I'm so sorry to hear about the awful situation you've been forced into . I wish you the best of luck sorting things out and hope you get a fair outcome. xx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Purplemaniacs Posted September 14, 2014 Share Posted September 14, 2014 So sorry to hear about the awful time you are having at the moment. I hope you have lots of support from good friends. Sorry I don't have any advice to offer you other than best wishes for the future, I hope can sort it all out. Chrissie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chickencam Posted September 14, 2014 Share Posted September 14, 2014 So sorry to what this, I remember you posting about difficulties with one of his offspring a while back. You have been through a lot I hope that you get everything resolved fairly. A friend of mine went through a rough time a few years back, she has just got engaged to a lovely guy who has restored her self esteem. Remember life can go up as well as down, we are all rooting for you x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alis girls Posted September 14, 2014 Share Posted September 14, 2014 Ditto what all the others have said. lots of hugs. xx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lillybettybabs Posted September 16, 2014 Author Share Posted September 16, 2014 Thanks everyone, i never thought id be in a situation like this. I do feel like buying a one way ticket to anywhere sometimes. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gavclojak Posted September 16, 2014 Share Posted September 16, 2014 Thanks everyone, i never thought id be in a situation like this. I do feel like buying a one way ticket to anywhere sometimes. Gosh...there but for the grace of god!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lillybettybabs Posted September 17, 2014 Author Share Posted September 17, 2014 Hopefully like Jilly's books if find a nice man and the end of it all. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alis girls Posted September 17, 2014 Share Posted September 17, 2014 I firmly believe what goes around comes around. Hope you get it sorted. Another lady who used to be on the forum - Scarlett was married to a toad (wont use a naughty word) and went thro hell - she then met someone else and seemed very happy. She lived not far from me and isnt on here anymore - hope its cos shes happy with her new man, chucks and cats. One of my YS's mates dad was let down by his wife an best friend if you get my drift - hes now with another lady and a new babe so there is hope. Good luck and hugs Ali Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lillybettybabs Posted September 17, 2014 Author Share Posted September 17, 2014 Well... it has got me thinking about studying law and specialising in these sorts of cases. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
