Chickendoodle Posted March 28, 2014 Share Posted March 28, 2014 Remembering my lovely Mum this Mother's Day. She died in 2005, much too young at 71. Went to see the trio Fascinating Aida last week who were brilliant - funny, satirical and quite rude! Dilly Keane sang a song called Look Mummy No Hands. You could have heard a pin drop at the end. (This one is not rude by the way), just very poignant. I thought it was appropriate for those of us who have lost our Mums Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Olly Posted March 28, 2014 Share Posted March 28, 2014 I love Fascinating Aida, and I've heard that song. Although my mum has been dead for 11 years I still find Mothers Day difficult, and I try to avoid the card aisle at the supermarket in the weeks beforehand. I miss her tremendously. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HarrisonFamily Posted March 28, 2014 Share Posted March 28, 2014 My mum died 4 years ago but this year since Omlet emailed me 'the Mothers day competition' I have been so close to tears all the time - I keep thinking what I would write, what I would say....I have no regrets we were so close - she really was my best friend, my two little ones will try and make Sunday special but I just wish there Nanny was here.....In Australia thay have adopt a granny....wish they ran it here... Song was beautiful...made me cry.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Grandmashazzie Posted March 28, 2014 Share Posted March 28, 2014 Remembering my mum also,as 1st April is 4th anniversary am quite emotional so will listen to song later.My mum was quite a character that I have only appreciated when it was too late.As the minister said at her funeral Hazel was unusual in that she said kind words behind your back and not so kind to your face She was one in a million and I miss her.To everyone who still has their mum give them a big hug especially if you have difficulties,they won't be there for ever. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LolaLayla Posted March 28, 2014 Share Posted March 28, 2014 My mum died 5 years ago The song was very sweet and yes I have tears in my eyes too. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cinnamon Posted March 28, 2014 Share Posted March 28, 2014 I lost mine 5 years ago too, 4 years after an accident left her badly brain damaged. Bittersweet time of year for me - I am thankful for my daughters, but miss my Mum It doesn't help that it is just everywhere, either. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alis girls Posted March 28, 2014 Share Posted March 28, 2014 I lost mum in 1995 and although we bickered a lot the yrs when she was having cancer treatment were our best as mother and daughter. Sounds dreadful but i suppose the roles reversed. I think she would have made a lovely gran and as I had boys the difficult mum/daughter thing wouldve been a thing of the past. She died in March and loved daffodils - I always ask for spring flowers from my sons and feel your pain. My mum died at 56 so I do worry now I;m in my 50;s - silly I know. OH lost his mum at 42. Lots of hugs to everyone - Ali xx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
coco Posted March 28, 2014 Share Posted March 28, 2014 Just to say to all those missing their Mums it does get easier. I lost my Mum 30 years ago when I was 18. I will be 48 next birthday m the same age as she was when she died. As a teenager I didn't get on with her but I often wonder how we would have got on now and how proud she woukd have been of her three grandsons. My Mum kept hamsters and had 50 when she died, I haven't got quite that many chickens but I can see where it comes from. Ps Ali. Just seen your postm worrying about how old you are is not silly at all, I am really not looking forward to being 48m think Imight stay at 47 for another year then go to being 49. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alis girls Posted March 28, 2014 Share Posted March 28, 2014 It does and it doesnt get easier. Had a glass of wine tonight so felt sad so this thread made me cry. I think I miss my gran more - we had such a close relationship and she outlived mum by 4 years. She saw my first son and was frail but had all her marbles. I dont cry much these days over this but every so often something sets me blubbing. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chuckmum6 Posted March 28, 2014 Share Posted March 28, 2014 I was just having a little cry before coming across this, as I too find this time really hard, Mother's Day this year falls on mums birthday as well, maybe that's why I am a bit wobbly - that and having a rotten cold. My mum died three years ago and I really miss her. I do make an effort to enjoy the day for my kids sake, but I really would rather just hid in bed for the whole day, I find all the Mother's Day stuff just reminds me that I don't have a mum anymore. My thoughts go to everyone missing their mums, whatever day of the year. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
keyhole kate Posted March 28, 2014 Share Posted March 28, 2014 I lost my mum too in 2008 she was 73 after she contracted C difficile in hospital I feel as though my girls and I were cheated we were all very close. It's silly little things like a song or a phrase that catch you out like Alis girls said it does and it doesn't get any better Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chickencam Posted March 28, 2014 Share Posted March 28, 2014 Love to you all who find this day hard. I am fortunate to still have my mum and MIL, I have a mixed relationship with my mum and in some ways I am closer to MIL, but feel blessed to have both. My poor mum lost both of her parents by the time she was 21 as an only child newly married with a young baby, me, it is only becoming a mum myself that made me realise how hard this could be. She also lost my brother when she was 29, I will call her and let her know that she is loved. This is the second Mothering Sunday when I won't see my ED, but there is a mystery parcel in the hall waiting for me Hugs to you all. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Space Chick Posted March 29, 2014 Share Posted March 29, 2014 I lost my Mum at Christmas 2000, she was only 46. Every year I miss her terribly and think of what she has missed (and my dad who I lost 10 months later, he was 47). My sister has children now and my parents would have loved being grandparents and would have been awesome. So Mother's Day for me is about my sister, she is an amazing Mum to my nephew and niece and I love her dearly. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chuckmum6 Posted March 29, 2014 Share Posted March 29, 2014 Hope it's ok, I would like to share a mother and daughter shot of me and my mum, taken on the day I learned to walk! Maybe a few other people might like to do the same? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Olly Posted March 29, 2014 Share Posted March 29, 2014 What a beautiful photo, Chuckmum! I don't know if I have anything I can reproduce but I think that's a lovely idea. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Groovychook Posted March 29, 2014 Share Posted March 29, 2014 (edited) This is such a sad time of the year and I find the relentless advertising quite difficult. I lost my Mum two and a half years ago and miss her terribly. This will be the first year that I've been a Mum and I wish more than anything that she could have been here to witness that. I still have a lovely MIL though, so do brave the card aisle to choose something for her, but it's very hard. Lovely photo chuckmum, thanks for sharing. Love to all who feel the loss of their Mum at this time xx Edited March 29, 2014 by Guest Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Purplemaniacs Posted March 29, 2014 Share Posted March 29, 2014 Ohhh this topic has made me cry. My mum died over 10 years ago, when she had me she was well into her 40s and had given up hope of having a child. She was so thrilled to have two grandchildren who she adored and she felt so lucky to have had time with them. She was 84 and after a very active life she had a short illness and passed away. I still miss her but I was so lucky to have such a loving and caring mum. My friend who had a brain tumour died on Christmas Day and I feel so sad for her two children both in their early 20s who have lost a mum to share the pleasures of growing up with. I will be thinking of them tomorrow, it will be such a difficult day for them, it would have been their Mums birthday on the 18th so it has been a hard month for them to cope with. But on a happier note I have DD and her three girls and DS to share the day with so I am very thankful. Chrissie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chickabee Posted March 29, 2014 Share Posted March 29, 2014 My mum died when I was 11, about 2 years after my dad died. She was 33. When I had my children I couldn't stop thinking about her. I'm 45 now and still think about both of them all the time. It's more what they've missed that upsets me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alis girls Posted March 29, 2014 Share Posted March 29, 2014 Apologies for being a wet nelly yesterday - YS and I had had issues and I'm finding 12 yrs old boy hard to contend with at present. Today better - he made me laugh - sauntered up to me with his playing cards (hes into magic tricks) and said " you' re a pretty normal human arent you mum?" Wheres this going I thought - he only wanted me to film a trick on the ipod. Not sure why he had to say that. Got my flowers a day early. Lots of love to you all missing mums - Hugs Ali xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Snowy Posted March 29, 2014 Share Posted March 29, 2014 What a lovely thread. Hugs to everyone missing their Mums. It is a very emotional day isn't it? Love that I have my gorgeous boys who are now at the age where they want to spoil me rotten, but I can't help but feel a bit low as I lost my Mum 15 years ago, aged 55. Way too young, and she never met my two youngest boys. OH also lost his Mum a couple of years ago. So a bittersweet day. Hope you all have a good day regardless. xxx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sadietoo Posted March 30, 2014 Share Posted March 30, 2014 I lost my mum the day after my 25th birthday ( so 32 years ago). She was 50. And I was doing ok until I saw the beautiful photo posted by Chuckmum6. I'm feeling fragile today because my ds is off to the other side of the world on his own for a month. I am used to him being away but would be so much happier if he was travelling with someone else. But of course as a Mum I have to smile and encourage and keep the emotion to myself. I have to say until I had children myself I had no idea how much my mum must have loved me ! Just to add a couple of friends of mine found it impossible to celebrate Mother's Day after losing their Mums and instigated instead daughters day complete with champagne Chocs and a slap up meal Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Purplemaniacs Posted March 30, 2014 Share Posted March 30, 2014 Just to add a couple of friends of mine found it impossible to celebrate Mother's Day after losing their Mums and instigated instead daughters day complete with champagne Chocs and a slap up meal What a nice idea. I shed a tear last night, I went to watch DD in a spotlight dancing and singing show. It was the opportunity for groups who meet in the local area to showcase their talents. Well DD goes once a week to a group that sings and dances, organised by a lovely young lady who does a lot of work in the schools and is fantastic. DD only went initially to have a bit of time to herself, a break from her children and did not realise that the group performed. Well DD did two songs and dances with her group and in the second was one of the two lead singers, it wouldn't normally get to me but I think with the closeness of today, it did. But I did enjoy it, a great evening. Hope everyone has a nice day and for those missing mums I hope you are able to remember some of the good times as well as the sadness of the loss of your Mums. Chrissie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alis girls Posted March 30, 2014 Share Posted March 30, 2014 Just been to church and got my flowers from my boys. My son said "is this the one where I give you flowers and then duck as you try and kiss me?" - yup thats it - and I did kiss them. My friend had her flowers thrust at her by her 12 yr old so faired better. They are so funny. Have a lovely day everyone and hope you get to put your feet up. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LolaLayla Posted March 30, 2014 Share Posted March 30, 2014 Today has been such a whirl. I got up to find that YS had packed a totally unsuitable bag for his flight today to Paris. It was the wrong shape to fit in the 'size gauge' at the airport. After a lot of scrabbling about and reorganisation, putting on to wash trousers he really needed to take , feeding the dog, letting the hens out etc I realised that I had 15 mins to get washed and make it to church to help hand flowers out. So having had no breakfast I made it in time and was touched when one of the young girls who was helping me with the flowers called me over, I thought the basket was too heavy for her but she wanted to make sure I got a bunch too It was so kind of her. The service had been a bit difficult as of course the emphasis was on your mum and I know I was not the only one there who was a bit teary. However once home ES and DD took me out for lunch and then helped me empty the compost bin. What a great feeling to get the compost in the raised beds . So I am sitting here counting my blessings and happy in the knowledge that YS is on the plane now (I know so because I saw the photo on FB ) and I may just open a box of chocs left over from Christmas Sending hugs to all you other mums out there Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
