Margaret Posted July 2, 2016 Share Posted July 2, 2016 I will understand if "Ooops, word censored!"ody replies. How old are we here on the forum? The reason I ask is I am looking out at the girls in the garden and really need to go and power wash the go up and clean out the WIR, and I really don't want too.... This is a first for me but will be 58 in October , work full time in London so have a 3 hour commute each day, have been up since 5 am cleaning, just seen off son and grandson on holiday, they have been living with me and OH since Feb ... Am am so tired , oh and waiting to go into hospital for a hernia and prolapse repair Think it maybe time to give up on the hens. Oh my I do sound like I am really moaning.... Sorry. Is it me or is it a struggle as you get older? Right ......off to clean them. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Groovychook Posted July 2, 2016 Share Posted July 2, 2016 Firstly, you're not moaning at all... goodness me, you've got a lot on your plate at the moment! I don't think it's an 'age thing' but just all the other demands on your life. When your son & grandson come back from their holiday, would it be worth asking them to help you out a bit with things around the house and especially the hen keeping. You need to train them up anyway, as you're going to need their help when you go into hospital. I wouldn't feel bad about it, it's simply not fair that you're having to work full time, plus the dreaded commute, housework etc. It would be a shame to give up on the hens if they give you pleasure because you're stretched too far with everything else. Hope you can put your feet up and have a well deserved rest this afternoon! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gavclojak Posted July 2, 2016 Share Posted July 2, 2016 I'm 51 and feel about 76 ATM...one of my little dogs has just been diagnosed with kidney disease so he starts pacing at around the bedroom around 5am and then that's me up!!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Janepie33 Posted July 2, 2016 Share Posted July 2, 2016 Ditto everything Groovychook says. I am 55 and work part time with no small person living with me, but still manage to get tired sometimes. Cleaning since 5am?! Do you live in a mansion?! I actually got so fed up with the cleaning and "Ooops, word censored!"ody helping me that I decided to get a cleaner. My neighbour's sister was looking for some cleaning jobs so it worked out well and I now have time to do what I want to do instead. It would be a shame to give up your girls. Maybe you will feel differently after your operation. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
soapdragon Posted July 2, 2016 Share Posted July 2, 2016 I am 51 (52 in October) and, though the girls are long gone, I do often feel dread at the thought of getting my 2 boys together and cleaning out 4 hamsters (3 cages) on a Saturday morning. As with others, there is lots going on in life at the moment and, naturally, it sometimes feels like its all a bit too demanding. Margaret, I echo the other comments about asking for a bit more help; maybe divvying up some of the current workload? I do think that its important to make some time for yourself during the day even if its only half an hour with a book. Certainly I am noticing myself get a bit more creaky even though I keep very active (stepper at least 5 times a week, lots of walking, weight firmly under control etc) and I think thats Mother Nature warning us of a certain age to slow up a bit Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mullethunter Posted July 2, 2016 Share Posted July 2, 2016 I'm 35. It's only me, OH, 2 cats and the chickens living together. OH is having a lot of health problems which I'm finding very stressful to deal with, and my job is very physical during the summer so I'm physically tired most of the time. However, compared to you Margaret I really have got it easy! I agree with the others, I don't think it's an age thing, I think you're just doing an awful lot at the moment and it does sound like something might need to give. Don't feel bad if you decide to give up the chooks - you can always get some more down the line when your life is a bit quieter. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Grandmashazzie Posted July 2, 2016 Share Posted July 2, 2016 I am 60 and took early retirement at 55. That said I have 4 foster boys who are most times a delight and pleasure to look after and sometimes I feel as you do, shattered and wondering why I keep doing it. It does sound as if you have a lot on especially if like me you are chief cook and bottle washer and cleaner and shopper and granny daycare. If yes ask for help from your son. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ain't Nobody Here Posted July 2, 2016 Share Posted July 2, 2016 I don't think you're moaning at all! You work full time, have a 3 hour commute each day and have had a small child living with you since Feb ? No wonder you're exhausted . I'm 53, only work 20 hours a week, have an easy 10 min drive/10 min walk commute but I usually fall asleep every afternoon if I'm not going anywhere after work . I've got my 2 grownup (almost 22 and 24) sons living at home after 4/5 years living away and although I love having them here I'm finding the extra shopping/cooking/cleaning/washing etc a bit of a bind. They help out a bit but usually when it suits them. Do you really need to powerwash the Go? I bet you don't. The chickens won't care! Good luck for your op, hope it goes well (at least you'll get enforced rest afterwards!) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
percy049 Posted July 2, 2016 Share Posted July 2, 2016 I'm 19 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
patsylabrador Posted July 2, 2016 Share Posted July 2, 2016 I think you sound like superwoman. Also, certainly here we could do with some lovely gentle sunshine, that helps a bit. I'm 57. I'm having bit of an Annus Horibilis (bit sad I tried to write that without checking the spelling tbh) with my health. Nothing too serious and I feel very fit and strong but I sat down and went through my period log and counted up that for half of this year I've had a period. 30 days and counting this month. I'm seeing the doctor on Thursday. It's driving me crazy, I just want it all to stop not get worse! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cat tails Posted July 2, 2016 Share Posted July 2, 2016 29, but felt like 79 dragging myself up a mountain during a hike with 60 kids... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Blackrocksrock Posted July 2, 2016 Share Posted July 2, 2016 62 and still working full time - 10.30 - 7pm 5 days a week - today I worked a Saturday form 8.40 - 3,30 then went to a town 16 miles away shopping - came home and made the dinner - I have the garden to strim tomorrow - just 2 of us here OH and me and 1 cat and 2 chickens left. OH not so fit so I have to paint, cook, clean, garden etc - some days I am so tired but I factor in my holidays to my friends = just back from the US for 2 weeks and Grand Canyon, Las Vegas and stayed with my american friends in Indiana and plan to go back there in September for 10 days. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alis girls Posted July 2, 2016 Share Posted July 2, 2016 54 and feeling it. Like the rest of you bar Percy and CT the babies on the forum - I work, look after the household and feel old. Physical probs drag you down. ask for more help and the chickens wont care if you dont hose their bed down. Good luck hun. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cat tails Posted July 2, 2016 Share Posted July 2, 2016 54 and feeling it. Like the rest of you bar Percy and CT the babies on the forum - I work, look after the household and feel old. Physical probs drag you down. ask for more help and the chickens wont care if you dont hose their bed down. Good luck hun. sorry, had to smile at baby! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alis girls Posted July 2, 2016 Share Posted July 2, 2016 Listen love compared to me you're a baby. Often it's difficult to ascertain ages unless the topics about music or offspring then you can hazard a guess. I must admit I have been wrong at times. I was very immature at 27. Mind you not much better at 54. Mind wants to party, body says " no way Hosea". I am determined to do a festival at some point and regain lost youth. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cat tails Posted July 3, 2016 Share Posted July 3, 2016 I know what you mean. I was doing some graduation talks for students ( aged 17, 18) and they didn't know the Muppets... Felt old as all their parents did know what I was talking about. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Margaret Posted July 3, 2016 Author Share Posted July 3, 2016 Thank you all for the lovely replies. Did clean the girls, took 3 hours, but it does look lovely but of course they have started to poop already Had a bath after and decided to message some friends suggesting it was wine o' clock and my bf turned up with a very nice bottle of Sancerre and we put the worlds to right. Laid in bed until 8, oh that was after throwing corn at the girls at 4 am...haven't had a lay in for about 20 years and now hubby is taking me out for breakfast and then going to the Albert Hall. So all is good today, can't actually believe how good, and the sun is shining. Can't really get son to help as he has a physical job and then looks after his son, but maybe I will try and chill more, but am obsessive with the housework so maybe will let that slide abit. So lovely to read all the replies, thank you for taking the time. Will try harder to do less Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Groovychook Posted July 3, 2016 Share Posted July 3, 2016 Glad to hear you had a nice time with the girls and sounds like a lovely plan for today, hope you really enjoy yourself I have had to let my standards slip too... OH with poor health, toddler, puppy etc. The cube hasn't been cleaned for an age although I do poo pick the trays and run every day. They haven't made a fuss about the dust yet! Seeing as it's only Norris the cockerel that sleeps in the cube and the girl all hang out on the perches, it doesn't get too grimy anyway. It bugs me more than them I would still ask for a little help. Grandson might like to learn how to look after chickens! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chickencam Posted July 4, 2016 Share Posted July 4, 2016 I am 49 and usually work about 16 hours a week but do full time to cover holidays and sickness from time to time. I wouldn't like to do any more. I have three grown up children YD 18 later this year other two are 20 and 22. I stIll don't seem to have much me time but that is my fault for having and allotment, garden, hens etc. I do try to be a bit more selfish these days, I do feel that I have earned it over the years. OH and I do try to eat out more and take more time for ourselves but it is never easy. I went to People's Sunday at Wimbledon yesterday with my DS, had to get up at 4:45am and didn't get home until 11:30pm, had a splitting headache, then couldn't sleep until gone 1am so feeling my age a bit today with aching hips. Not as bad as I thought I would be though, was up at 7am to get YD's breakfast, flagging a bit already though, at least I didn't have to work today, although I sit down at work The chooks really won't mind if their home isn't cleaned quite so rigorously, I have seen what they are prepared to dust bathe in, drink and eat but they stay happy and healthy. Just remember for both you and them a bit of grime is good for the immune system Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Valkyrie Posted July 4, 2016 Share Posted July 4, 2016 58 and have to add this awful weather we've had lately has made me feel meh! I don't work apart from the odd proof reading for OH. I have time - just never know where it goes. He does the awful commuting, drives into London at 4.30 with fairly good traffic but leaves at 5pm and gets all the rubbish on the way home. He's exhausted by the time he gets home so it's all snoozing after dinner. He claims he sees a programme but unless he's got a third eye in his mouth (the other two are closed) then I don't believe him. So I'm not surprised you feel pretty much worn to a frazzle too. I do the house bits in the main - you are doing it all! Yesterday we had sun - whoohoo! Fired up and busy in the garden and as it's not raining, warm, bright (sun disappeared but that's OK) so I'm up and at 'em today again. Glad you had some "me" time - you need to recharge at some stage! xxx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mullethunter Posted July 4, 2016 Share Posted July 4, 2016 drives into London at 4.30 Every day? How does he do that?! I'd be dead in a month. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chickencam Posted July 4, 2016 Share Posted July 4, 2016 I wouldn't last a day, I was up at 4:45 yesterday and it nearly killed me Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cat tails Posted July 4, 2016 Share Posted July 4, 2016 Same here! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
clucker1 Posted July 5, 2016 Share Posted July 5, 2016 48 years young here, work 18 hours a week plus a tiny bit of baking for a local cafe, I want to expand this.One busy spaniel to walk and exercise/train plus 11 chickens and a garden. My kids are getting far less dependent on me, being 14 and 18 so I'm presently thinking about what to do with the rest of my life ! Getting up before 7 am? I'd be dead! OH does all that stuff, poor thing. Chickens can definitely survive in dirt, so don't worry....when I had 4 chickens I was OTT with cleanliness it was all sparkling clean all the time. Now as long as I poo pick daily, that's my main thing or else it's horrid. Take it easy on yourself Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Valkyrie Posted July 5, 2016 Share Posted July 5, 2016 He does go to bed early. He's always been an early bird and he likes to get things sorted early at work. The warehouse opens for deliveries at 6 or earlier if the guys in the lorries are already waiting to unload. While it's quiet he catches up with paperwork because during the day it can be quite manic at times. He does have another member of staff to help which means we can go on holidays. He has been taking the odd Friday off - when he can. He used to get up at 5am but his body clock makes him wake up earlier. I don't know how he does it either! I'm an owl!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
