Cate in NZ Posted February 20, 2008 Share Posted February 20, 2008 Most of you forum regulars know about my plans to emigrate to New Zealand, although I am trying not to keep boring you all with it . But today was a big day. My darling hubby took off from Heathrow at 2:25, and should now be airborne en route to Rotorua via LA & Auckland. I have no idea how I managed to drive back from Heathrow, there were times when I could barely see because I was crying so hard, but thank goodness Immi was with me and she was a wonderful support. Of course it doesn't help that I hate driving around Heathrow........I generally get lost every time I go there . I'm only crying because I'll miss him so much, we've got the most fantastic opportunity to move out there, and it's all really postive, I'm just having a self-indulgent moment or 2, after all we'll be reunited in June when the children and I fly out to join him...........and I've got so much to do between now and then with the packing and the sorting, and coaxing Seb through his GCSEs that the time will just fly by I'm sure. Sorry I've not been around much recently, I've missed my forum time, but life has been pretty hectic with a load of meet ups with friends and family, a couple of parties, loads of packing, etc. etc .........I'm sure you get the picture, but be warned, now that he's gone I'm anticipating loads of free and boring evenings, I reckon I'm going to be logged on loads, looking for someone to chat to Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Christian Posted February 20, 2008 Share Posted February 20, 2008 Oh Kate, don't be daft! Glad we can be a shoulder to cry on! It's an emotional time for all of you (especially driving around Heathrow ) The time will pass really quickly, you'll see! Have you discovered www.skype.com for cheap calls? I swear by it! Our old phone bill use to be £300 per month when OH was on long haul. Now its about £5 as we use the laptops to call. Well worth thing about it. PM me if you need more details. Big hugs! C x x x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mrs Frugal Posted February 20, 2008 Share Posted February 20, 2008 Oh Kate, I was thinking about you this afternoon. Time will whizz by, you'll see. You'll blink and then it'll be time to get on the plane yourselves!! In the meantime, if you're feeling down, you know where we all are . Big hugs to you . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ziggy Posted February 20, 2008 Share Posted February 20, 2008 Oh I feel for you.... I drove back from Heathrow one week ago after seeing a friend off, a friend who lives in Australia, and I have no idea how long it will be till we'll ever see each other again, and though that's in no way comparable to seeing your DH go away and all the emotional upheaval of relocating your family there, I can sympathise whole-heartedly with driving around Heathrow unable to see the road from the tears... Big hugs to you, and all the best... it's nice at least that we live in an era when phone calls and internet talks to loved ones far away make staying in touch much easier!!! Imagine the time when people had to write to each other and wait weeks for a reply!! Keep smiling Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chickenlover Posted February 20, 2008 Share Posted February 20, 2008 it is so horrible when your hubbie goes away for a long time, my husband goes to ghana for months at a time, but one plus side is when you do meet up again its like when you first got together all over again Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chelsea Posted February 20, 2008 Share Posted February 20, 2008 kate is right it will whizz by, its nearly march now - so not long!! Sorry to hear you were upset , I would have been the same. Just keep yourself occupied and dont listen to miserable music!!! Put something upbeat and jolly on to cheer yourself up! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Couperwife Posted February 20, 2008 Share Posted February 20, 2008 oh, loads of hugs (((hugs))) it wont be long before you see him, but it must be hard. i'll be on here to chat if you ever need a random (sort of) northerner to chat to or if you are on here later in the evening, you could suffer ( ) the random ramblings of Kev more hugs cathy x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Dogmother Posted February 20, 2008 Share Posted February 20, 2008 Awww, I wish I could give you a big hug right now kate. I'll send one anyway. Time will flya nd before you know it, you will be on your own way out there Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chickenlass Posted February 20, 2008 Share Posted February 20, 2008 Your bound to feel emotional with such life changing plans ahead of you and as has already been said Heathrow is enough to make any tearful person sob. Glad you have got back home OK anyhow and once you know is he safely there I hope you can just look forward to a few months time when you join him, The others a correct when they say it will just fly by...you have got so much to do by the sounds of it. [Personally I would have gone on ahead and left him with the packing etc lol] Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fairy&cake Posted February 20, 2008 Share Posted February 20, 2008 Awwwwwwwww HUGS! I hope your feeling better now. Just imagine the rush of feelings you'll feel when you get off the plane. Just like on Love Actually . [i cry at the beginning bcause of that] Write lists and check everything off. That'll pass the time! Youll be fine Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hillfamily Posted February 20, 2008 Share Posted February 20, 2008 Kate - sending you (((((((big big hugs))))))) Time will fly by and then you and your hubby and family will be starting a wonderful new big adventure together Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Omletina Kyckling Posted February 20, 2008 Share Posted February 20, 2008 Oh Kate, I'm sending you lots of hugs too. Everybody's right about time flying and it'll all be worth it come June. The next few days will be the worst so you must try to keep busy. My husband has lived/worked in Sweden for nearly four years now and I only see him about once a month for a weekend -it's always worst just after he's gone back and I try to go out and do things during the days afterwards. If you don't have Skype (as per Christian's suggestions) - look at Planet Talk for you 'phone calls. I have it and it saves me a fortune. I can ring Guy or my friends in NZ for about 2.5pence a minute and you just top it up as you need to with a credit card, it's a bit like pay as you go but for landlines. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BeckyBoo Posted February 20, 2008 Share Posted February 20, 2008 Wow, that's a biggie, no wonder you were so tearful. First major step on the path! But what an adventure!! Really feel for your OH too, although I think you've got the harder end of the deal. Pamper yourself tonight, take-away, to hell with the housework, just snuggle up with the kids and be together. It'll be a hard few days I reckon then you'll find a new routine and before you know it it'll be June and you'll be doing the whole goodbye thing again, this time to go to a fantastic new life. Lots and lots of love to you this evening, what a day! Mrs Bertie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted February 20, 2008 Share Posted February 20, 2008 Kate, I have been thinking about you too, but not wanting to send lots of sympathy which might highlight the impending situation. What has happened today is enormous and I too would have a flood of emotion, in fact I have - and it's not even me! Reality has begun today. I guess the next few days will be tough and then routine will settle back in next week and you'll feel stronger. Did you have your MIL with you? On a positive note, he really owes you those chickens when you get there!! He's got a big adventure too - moving to a new country; starting a new job, but at the bottom and having to find somewhere for his family to live all on his own. It won't be easy for him either doing all that without you. Keep smiling! xx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Egluntyne Posted February 20, 2008 Share Posted February 20, 2008 Ditto to all the above. Time will fly by and then you can join him on your big adventure. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted February 20, 2008 Share Posted February 20, 2008 I'll ditto the above too. The days pass so quickly you'll soon be the ones on the plane flying out to join him Make lots of lists, take care of your self and the big day will soon arrive Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Karen & co. Posted February 20, 2008 Share Posted February 20, 2008 I don't think I can add anything to top what has already been said Take care, write him lots of letters, it's lovely to hold a letter filled with special messages Hugs to you and the family Karen x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Snowy Posted February 20, 2008 Share Posted February 20, 2008 Oh Kate, what can I say, everyone else has said it all. (((Big Hugs))) and make the most of uninterrupted forum time with no one going for a while! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lesley Posted February 20, 2008 Share Posted February 20, 2008 Big Hugs from here as well - it's not long 'til June Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
theherd123 Posted February 20, 2008 Share Posted February 20, 2008 Kate, what can i say? This year is flying by already so June will be round before you know it! We are all here for you with a shoulder to cry on, arms to hug you and daft things to say to make you smile. Much love xoxoxox Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cate in NZ Posted February 20, 2008 Author Share Posted February 20, 2008 Thanks all I'm feeling more sorted now, and I've just cleared out the loft.........thought I'd get that chore out of the way whilst I'm feeling motivated and itching to do something. Fine old load of stuff to take down to the dump tomorrow now though Ginette, I didn't dare take MIL . In fairness my car is only really a 4 seater with limited boot space, so once I'd got Jeff's 2 large bags in there was only space left for a driver and 2 passengers. Seb chose to say his goodbyes at home and Immi came with us to say goodbye and to support me. MIL, bless her, would have been very difficult to contend with when I was feeling as bad as I did...........she'd have been worse and I struggled enough to concentrate on the driving as it was. I did feel mildly guilty, but we're going to meet up next week, and she's promised to visit us all in NZ for Christmas or soon after. And Jeff did spend all day yesterday with her, which somehow meant that she ended up "gatecrashing" our romantic, just for us, restaurant meal last night Just counting down the days to June now Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted February 20, 2008 Share Posted February 20, 2008 And Jeff did spend all day yesterday with her, which somehow meant that she ended up "gatecrashing" our romantic, just for us, restaurant meal last night NO!!! Oh poor you Kate! That must have been disappointing. And she should have been more sensitive. Why do carefully laid plans always go wrong? Well done on the loft though - I'm impressed! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cate in NZ Posted February 20, 2008 Author Share Posted February 20, 2008 And Jeff did spend all day yesterday with her, which somehow meant that she ended up "gatecrashing" our romantic, just for us, restaurant meal last night NO!!! Oh poor you Kate! That must have been disappointing. And she should have been more sensitive. Why do carefully laid plans always go wrong? In fairness she's always been brilliant to us over the years, she's a very generous and supportive lady, and she is losing a son. She's not going to see him until Christmas at the earliest. I've still got the children and only have 4 months before we're back as a family. She's looking at a very big hole in her life . It was a little frustrating when she came along for the ride, not exactly how I'd envisaged our last night, but I could understand why she wanted to hang on to him for as long as possible. I'll just rearrange that romantic evening for June.........and I bet we can make it something to look forward to Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted February 20, 2008 Share Posted February 20, 2008 And Jeff did spend all day yesterday with her, which somehow meant that she ended up "gatecrashing" our romantic, just for us, restaurant meal last night NO!!! Oh poor you Kate! That must have been disappointing. And she should have been more sensitive. Why do carefully laid plans always go wrong? In fairness she's always been brilliant to us over the years, she's a very generous and supportive lady, and she is losing a son. She's not going to see him until Christmas at the earliest. I've still got the children and only have 4 months before we're back as a family. She's looking at a very big hole in her life . It was a little frustrating when she came along for the ride, not exactly how I'd envisaged our last night, but I could understand why she wanted to hang on to him for as long as possible. I'll just rearrange that romantic evening for June.........and I bet we can make it something to look forward to That's very generous of you too Kate! June will indeed be special with only two teenagers to interrupt. After all, you won't even know anyone else so with phone off the hook and work colleagues barred, he'll be all yours! That's definitely something to look forward to! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ain't Nobody Here Posted February 20, 2008 Share Posted February 20, 2008 That sounds like a very difficult emotional moment for you . I'm sure you will be kept busy by planning and friends and family so the time will pass quickly. And what an exciting adventure to be going on . I reckon I'm going to be logged on loads, looking for someone to chat to Not sure if you'll find any of us on here . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
