Tulip Posted May 30, 2009 Share Posted May 30, 2009 Just caught up with this one. Thinking of you Shirl and hope your brother recovers well. Huggs from here (((((((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))))))) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Olly Posted May 30, 2009 Share Posted May 30, 2009 Gosh that's hard for you leaving your daughters. I do hope they'll let you see him when you get there on Monday. Thinking of you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bigmommasally Posted May 30, 2009 Share Posted May 30, 2009 Still thinking of you and sending positive vibes - I hope all goes well when they bring him out of sedation. Take Care Big Hugs x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Karen & co. Posted May 30, 2009 Share Posted May 30, 2009 What a tough time you are having at the moment Sending lots of positive vibes over for your brother, and for you leaving your girls for the first time. Karen x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
theherd123 Posted May 30, 2009 Share Posted May 30, 2009 I hope your journey will be hassle free and im praying the good news will keep coming. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cyber Chook Posted May 30, 2009 Share Posted May 30, 2009 Shirl, it must be very difficult to think straight - your lives have been turned upside down. On a practical level, I'm sure that as long as you aren't away for very long, and can express while you're in Spain to keep the milk going, the breastfeeding can carry on as before once you're back home. It doesn't sound as if you feel ready to stop, at least not like this, and you've probably got quite enough change in your lives to be going on with as it is. Wishing you strength and hope, hope and more hope Caroline Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
katieadams Posted May 30, 2009 Share Posted May 30, 2009 I'm so glad to hear good news, more positive thoughts and hugs from up here xxxx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AJuff Posted May 30, 2009 Share Posted May 30, 2009 I wish you and your family well on Monday. It will be hard for you all. Look after yourself. Best wishes. x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chickvic Posted May 30, 2009 Share Posted May 30, 2009 Thinking of you and your family (((hugs))) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AnnieP Posted May 30, 2009 Share Posted May 30, 2009 Shirl, I keep thinking of you and hope and pray the good news continues to come thick and fast. Stay strong and know we are all here, giving you our cyber support. Safe journey. xxx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lisa Posted May 30, 2009 Share Posted May 30, 2009 Safe journey. You and your family are in my thoughts. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Egluntyne Posted May 30, 2009 Share Posted May 30, 2009 All the best to you and your family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lesley Posted May 31, 2009 Share Posted May 31, 2009 I hope it goes well for you all tomorrow Shirl. Thinking of you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MedusA Posted May 31, 2009 Share Posted May 31, 2009 Good luck with the trip and here's hoping you have positive news for us on your return. We're all sending positive vibes for your brother's recovery. *hugs* Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Blackrocksrock Posted May 31, 2009 Share Posted May 31, 2009 Safe home and good news when you get there - fingers crossed Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jlo Posted May 31, 2009 Share Posted May 31, 2009 All the best for your trip to Spain. We are all hoping that there is good news when your brother comes round. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Yorkshire Pudding Posted May 31, 2009 Share Posted May 31, 2009 I can't say more than what has been said already. Thinking of you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
riane Posted May 31, 2009 Share Posted May 31, 2009 Just returned from holiday and caught up with this thread. So sorry to hear about your brothers accident. I hope your travel plans work out ok and you get to visit your brother as planned. Sending lots of love and prayers.x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chook n Boo Mum Posted June 1, 2009 Share Posted June 1, 2009 You are already on your way by now, but I just wanted to add my good wishes & {{{hugs}}} too. Re the breastfeeding, DS decided at 18 months that he'd had enough & wanted to move on from me. I assume you are only feeding now maybe once a day, so you will have some discomfort, but it will ease after a few days...I wandered round with savoy cabbage leaves in my bra to ease the ache, it worked but was an unusual scent to say the least ! Given that your DD is a bit older than my DS was, she may just slot back into her old routine or simply move on once you get home, I hope you are happy whichever way it goes . Sha x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chickencam Posted June 1, 2009 Share Posted June 1, 2009 best of luck and good wishes to you and your family. It is always hard when you have to choose between family members. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shirl Posted June 6, 2009 Author Share Posted June 6, 2009 I got home about 5 hours ago. I've been trying to find info on the internet since. Tom isn't doing well. He is off life support and breathing through a tracheotomy. He has his eyes open but does not focus and he is classified as being in a vegetative state. The Drs have said after tests on Thursday he is likely to remain in this state. His cortex has almost no activity. He can hear but only sounds he doesn't know what the sounds are. Spasticity has started so his limbs are stiff and his hands are starting to turn in and clamp shut.He has an infection as he has a hole in his lung so he has a raging temperature, his heart is racing at between 170 and 200 beats per minute. Blood pressure is sky high (180/100 as an average.) They tell us he had a brain aneurysm which caused the car accident. If his prognosis was good they would look to treat the anurism soon but under the circumstances they aren't. They tell us it will be 3-6 months before we know exactly how he will end up but improvement is likely to be minimal. As you can imagine we are heartbroken. To add to our distress he didn't have travel insurance so we will have to pay for repatriation which will cost a massive amount because he will need a specialst medical air ambulance with intensive care unti on board with a team of doctors / nurses. We are unsure of how much we will have to pay for medical care as he has a EHIC card which covers emergency care but we not sure how far this goes. If anyone learns something from this it has to be that travel insurance is not something to save money on. Tom was a very fit 36 year old with no health problems and by freak medical occurance has ended up alone miles from home in intensive care with no hope for repatriation in the near future. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Egluntyne Posted June 6, 2009 Share Posted June 6, 2009 I'm so sorry to hear this Shirl. I hope you see signs of improvement soon. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seagazer Posted June 6, 2009 Share Posted June 6, 2009 I'm so sorry Shirl, not the news you wanted to hear. I hope you're able to find some help to get your brother home. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
redfrock Posted June 6, 2009 Share Posted June 6, 2009 sending all our love and best wishes xxx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chickvic Posted June 6, 2009 Share Posted June 6, 2009 Thinking of you Shirl, and hope you can get Tom home soon. (((hugs))) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
