Omletina Kyckling Posted April 3, 2010 Share Posted April 3, 2010 As some of you on here already know, I've been going through a difficult time and hence haven't been on here very much. In January, I got a letter, out of the blue, from a solicitor advising me my husband was seeking a divorce. We'd just swept the chimney together so the post came as a bit of a shock. I then found out he'd visited a solicitor in November and had had valuations of our home carried out at the same time!! Anyway, that's old news now. Soooo, I am 41 years old and now face starting over again. I have to say I am absolutely terrified at the prospect, I've been used to being part of a couple for almost 20 years now, and relied on him to do all the big jobs, service cars etc. He was also the major wage earner. I haven't worked for about 3 years now as I'm signed off with arthirtis, mainly in my hands. I've found out in the past three months that I have some absolutely wonderful friends who have been very supportive and without whom, I'm not sure I'd still be here!! They know who they are, but I'd like to thank them for being there for me. I've also found out that some I thought were very close friends really weren't friends at all, and perhaps one thing I have to learn in the future is that I need to be a bit more careful about who I get close to!! Anyway, I've been in a bad way these past few months, and not felt well with my arthritis and also with depression (I'm on anti depressants and have so many other pills for my arthritis I almost rattle!!) But things are starting to look up. I decided when all of this happened that I would move back north to be near family, back to Huddersfield. I found my perfect cottage, well as perfect as I can find for what I will be able to afford that is!! It's a lovely little weaver's cottage, right up in the hills above Huddersfield, very similar to the house I grew up in. It has amazing views, on a clear day you can see the Castleford cooling towers and with a telescope, I'm told you can see the Humber Bridge!! It's very me inside, beams, a nice fireplace, the only downside is the garden is rather small, much smaller than it looks in photos and I'm used to having a huge garden, but I realise that with my arthritis I can't manage a large garden on my own, so a small one will be much better. I'll try to attach a couple of photosso you can see where I'm heading!! I doubt that I'll be able to hold an Omletstock 3 craft weekend there, perhaps on a smaller scale?!! and this is the view Anyway I'm hoping to be back iwith you all shortly and back to my old self!! Thanks for listening! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ain't Nobody Here Posted April 3, 2010 Share Posted April 3, 2010 I'm so sorry to hear you've been having such a tough time . You sound very positive now though and your new cottage is absolutely gorgeous . What a view . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Redwing Posted April 3, 2010 Share Posted April 3, 2010 hiya hun. Funny I was thinking about you the other day and hoping you were ok Glad that things are finally beginning to sort themselves out for you The cottage looks lovely and hopefully a fresh start will help hugs x x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chelsea Posted April 3, 2010 Share Posted April 3, 2010 Wow, what a view It looks lovely - just the kind of view you need after all you have been through. Sorry to hear you've had a tough time of late, things will get better I am sure. New start and all that. ((hug)) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Couperwife Posted April 3, 2010 Share Posted April 3, 2010 (((hugs))) I feel a song coming on.... "things......can only get better.....lallalalalala..." and "the only way is up......bayyyyyybeeeeeeee......." heavens - I am showing my age arent I cathy x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Omletina Kyckling Posted April 3, 2010 Author Share Posted April 3, 2010 (((hugs))) I feel a song coming on.... "things......can only get better.....lallalalalala..." and "the only way is up......bayyyyyybeeeeeeee......." heavens - I am showing my age arent I cathy x Look....if you are going to burst into 80s songs when I'm up with you this week, I may have to rethink my plans....I may go into a relapse!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Couperwife Posted April 3, 2010 Share Posted April 3, 2010 isnt that the idea??? Ive got some amazing 80s music you WILL enjoy yourself cathy x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Snowy Posted April 3, 2010 Share Posted April 3, 2010 You know how bad I am at keeping in touch, and I have honestly been meaning to text you all week to see how you were doing My bad. The cottage looks gorgeous - and very 'you' You do sound very positive, good for you Hun Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Egluntyne Posted April 3, 2010 Share Posted April 3, 2010 Looks absolutely heavenly. I'm sure you will have a lovely life there. It will be lovely to have you back oop north where you belong, and able to join us on Yorkshire Omleteers outings. I'l be visiting you in that lovely cottage as soon as you ready to receive guests. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Space Chick Posted April 3, 2010 Share Posted April 3, 2010 Looks and sounds fantastic, and a fresh start sounds just what you need. Big scary life changes indeed...... but exciting too Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Purplemaniacs Posted April 3, 2010 Share Posted April 3, 2010 Best of luck with your new life, I hope it all works out for you. Your new home looks lovely. Chrissie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted April 3, 2010 Share Posted April 3, 2010 I'm utterly gobsmacked, how can you live with someone for 20 years and turn around and do something so utterly devious and nasty! I'm so, so sorry and no wonder you've been depressed! I'm so glad the black clouds are lifting a little for you and so glad you do have good friends around you. Your cottage is stunning and that view, wow! For what it's worth, love and hugs from this end of the keyboard xxxxx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lesley Posted April 3, 2010 Share Posted April 3, 2010 Very You! - what a lovely cottage! Big life changes are very scary......but very exciting as well.....all the very best in your new venture Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Couperwife Posted April 3, 2010 Share Posted April 3, 2010 la la lalalalalalalal (swing out sister) ooooh arrrrrrrr n'break out........ lalallalalalalalla Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Couperwife Posted April 3, 2010 Share Posted April 3, 2010 ooooh ooooooh Freedom...... lalalalalalalal *dances around like a nutter* oi - am I the only one singing here????? ive not been drinking either cathy x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ms Marple Posted April 3, 2010 Share Posted April 3, 2010 I haven't been on here very much myself lately, so was really shocked to read this post. However that cottage looks absolutely gorgeous!!! being a Northern lass myself I say 'welcome home!!' Hope you continue to thrive as you embark onyour new start. i look forward to meeting you sometime as I neber made it to Omletstock in the end last summer. (((Hugs)))) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BeckyBoo Posted April 4, 2010 Share Posted April 4, 2010 I didn't know what had happened either, so sorry to hear - what a shock it must have been. But it will get better, and you will surprise yourself by what you are able to do that you'd always relied on him to do. I changed the brake lights in my car last weekend (a very little thing, but one that left me disproportionately pleased with mysefl! ) And the things you can't manage, well, you can always hire a man in for them, or ask one of your good friends. (Like having a husband but without the disadvantages of remote-hogging or loud snoring) keep your chin up, and keep posting on here, it's what got me through my split last year Absolutely gorgeous looking house by the way - those views Lots of love BeckyBoo Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jules. Posted April 4, 2010 Share Posted April 4, 2010 Sending you love & hugs from Lancashire, too x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Looney Posted April 4, 2010 Share Posted April 4, 2010 Your new house and view look fantastic! You have had to deal with so much and you should give yourself so much credit for making such big decisions about your future I look forward to hearing about your new house and don't think I could ever tire of seeing pics of that view (in the spring, summer, snow...!) I won't join in with Couperwife's singing, that really would shatter the peace on a Sunday morning!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
patsylabrador Posted April 4, 2010 Share Posted April 4, 2010 I don't know you but I wish you Good Luck with your new life. It looks and sounds like you've made big gains - your friends and your cottage. Being 41 doesn't mean anything these days, I recently met a lady in her late 70's who was starting a new OU degree. I hope you have an exciting new life. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seagazer Posted April 4, 2010 Share Posted April 4, 2010 Gosh what a shock that must have been. You will manage just fine, there will be tough times but you will get through it. My mum and dad divorced whilst in their 40s and my mum is a dab hand at putting shelves up etc. She has become so much stronger after splitting with my dad. Your house looks absolutely gorgeous and the view is to die for. I think just being able to look at that view would take stresses away. I hope life works out well for you now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jlo Posted April 4, 2010 Share Posted April 4, 2010 I am really sorry to hear about all your hardships. I hope that the future is much brighter for you and as for that cottage - fantastic! Waking up to that view will be a tonic in itself! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ClaireG Posted April 4, 2010 Share Posted April 4, 2010 What a lovely cottage and what fantastic views. Look after yourself ((hugs)). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tulip Posted April 4, 2010 Share Posted April 4, 2010 I've not been around much and had no idea you were going through this - I'm so sorry. But sounds like you're definitely on the way to bouncing back and I wish you all the luck in the world xxx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LisaP Posted April 4, 2010 Share Posted April 4, 2010 I'm so sorry to hear what you've been going through but pleased that you've had some true friends to help you. You actually sound very strong in your post - very clear and level headed and your house looks absolutely beautiful (sort of house I dream of ). Wishing you all the best for a bright new future - bit daunting but hopefully exciting and fulfilling too Lisa P Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
