craftyhunnypie Posted June 15, 2010 Share Posted June 15, 2010 I'm feeling very sad today. I have been a home help for the past 5 years - one or two afternoons a week for a dear old lady. She was 90 last year & a true inspiration. She died at the weekend & I have been so upset & sad about it, as she was a lovely friend - who I learnt a lot from. She taught me how to be like a lady, good etiquette & to appreciate & want nice things. I've learnt about flowers from her, how to do embroidery & also about designer fashion names. She often gave me her Vogue magazine. I have been lost to bits this afternoon & have missed her wonderful company & chit chat. I've had my cry - but 5 years was a long time & I never let her down. I will really miss her Emma.x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Plum Posted June 15, 2010 Share Posted June 15, 2010 and she was a lucky lady to have you in her twilight years to share things with. Well done being a friend to her Emma. x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
docsquid Posted June 15, 2010 Share Posted June 15, 2010 How sad she has gone, but how wonderful that you were her friend. The very elderly really do have a lot to teach us. My favourite job as a junior doctor was my geriatrics job. You meet people who had been there and done that. One patient (a Jamaican gentleman) who was 96 was a real character. He had played for the West Indies at cricket before the war, and then was knighted for being basically a West Indian James Bond during the war. He carried his knighthood certificate with him as he was fed up of being thought to be confused! He had hurt his knee while decorating his living room which landed him in hospital. Another lady had chained herself to the railings with Mrs Pankhurst and had a right old go at the Health Minister when he visited the hospital She may have looked like an innocuous old lady in a pink bed jacket with a grey bun on her head, but she was as sharp as a knife when it came to politics. I am so pleased you could care for your lovely friend, and also learn from her, and recognise the contribution that older folk make to society. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Willow Posted June 15, 2010 Share Posted June 15, 2010 Sorry to hear that Emma but how lovely that you both got so much out of the friendship. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seagazer Posted June 15, 2010 Share Posted June 15, 2010 I'm so sorry, your friend sounded like a wonderful lady and passed on some lovely knowledge to you. How lovely for you to have been able to spend time with her. Funny as I was walking around the park this afternoon with a few middle aged ladies we were talking about the golden oldies that sit in the park in the afternoon. We all mentioned how sad it was to see them looking frailer and frailer. We all it seems stop and have a chat with them whilst we're in the park. You have been left with some great memories of her. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ain't Nobody Here Posted June 15, 2010 Share Posted June 15, 2010 I'm so sorry to hear that . I'm sure I remember you mentioning her on the forum before . She's sounds like she was a lovely lady . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
poachedegg Posted June 15, 2010 Share Posted June 15, 2010 Sorry about your friend. x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
alih Posted June 15, 2010 Share Posted June 15, 2010 Very sorry to hear your news. It's wonderful that we can learn so much from older people and you will always have such strong memories of her. Chin up. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LisaP Posted June 15, 2010 Share Posted June 15, 2010 I am very sorry for your loss, she sounds like a lovely lady. Lisa P Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Looney Posted June 15, 2010 Share Posted June 15, 2010 I'm sorry that your friend died Emma, it sounded like she was quite a lady and that you were lucky to have found each other at important times of your lives so you could learn from each other and build a true friendship. Grieving is awful but it is really necessary, I believe you can only come to terms with what you have lost by understanding and appreciating just how much the person meant to you. Sending you great big hugs xxxx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chucky Mama Posted June 15, 2010 Share Posted June 15, 2010 I am really sorry to hear about your dear friend How lovely that you spent such time together though. You must make sure that you pass on what she gave to you to someone else. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chick wiggle Posted June 15, 2010 Share Posted June 15, 2010 Oh Im so sorry Emma, she sounds like she was truly a wonderful lady, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
theherd123 Posted June 15, 2010 Share Posted June 15, 2010 Im so sorry Emma, such sad news. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lesley Posted June 15, 2010 Share Posted June 15, 2010 Sorry to hear your news Emma - she will have been so pleased to have had you looking after her and treating her as a person and not just as a burden. What wonderful life skills she passed on to you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
foreveryoung Posted June 15, 2010 Share Posted June 15, 2010 Im so sorry about your loss, ive done a lot of home help and worked in a few nursing homes, you meet so many amazing ppl in this job, their life stories and their experiences and i do miss it, it will get easier in time, although it might no seem it but it will, remember all the things she has taught you and what you remember about her... im sure she knew how lucky she was to have someone who cares for her unconditionally. all the best x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Egluntyne Posted June 15, 2010 Share Posted June 15, 2010 Sorry to hear it CHP. It sounds as if she made an impact on your life, and you on hers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jules. Posted June 15, 2010 Share Posted June 15, 2010 Sending you (((hugs))) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Couperwife Posted June 15, 2010 Share Posted June 15, 2010 sending you hugs from me and kev too you probably made her life wonderful - you should be proud cathy xxxxx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chickencam Posted June 15, 2010 Share Posted June 15, 2010 Sorry to hear about the loss of your dear friend. It sounds like you both enriched each other's lives, remeber the good times. My Grandad is nearly 91 and the world has changed so much in his lifetime. My dad has had no contact with him for over 20 years, and I have always been close to him. We have him over for Sunday lunch regularly, he is very deaf and because of this not many people really take the time to talk to him, and he can get very lonely. My children particularly my DS who has a good deep voice which my Grandad can hear, take the time to talk to him, as do I. He has been a widower for 12 years and has found it really hard. It is important to remember that however old people are on the outside they are the same as they ever where inside, with the same feelings and worries. Good on you for taking the time to be a good companion. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
patsylabrador Posted June 16, 2010 Share Posted June 16, 2010 She sounds like a wonderful lady, a real role model. I have a similar neighbour and I'm always saying that I intend to be like her. She's in her late eighties and zooms about being busy and loves a bit of gossip. We call her Miss Marple. You'll have lovely memories to keep. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alis girls Posted June 16, 2010 Share Posted June 16, 2010 She sounds lovely - I have a few patients who i am very fond of (many elderly) and a few I could do without. Lots of hugs coming your way Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Christian Posted June 16, 2010 Share Posted June 16, 2010 Lots of hugs coming your way CHP It sounds like she was a pleasure to know and has enriched your life and you hers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
craftyhunnypie Posted June 16, 2010 Author Share Posted June 16, 2010 Thank you everyone! Your kind words mean heck of a lot! I really enjoy talking to ' the elderly', remember they are wiser & much more knowledgeable than we will ever be! This was the lady that always wore her makeup, had me putting her curlers in, painted her nails blue, wore zebra print shoes & leopard print dressing gown - bless her! She really tickled me, she was so whacky & modern. She had all her marbles, cooked good meals for herself & knew exactly how to use her mobile phone! She was football mad - bit sad that she died on the day of the 1st England match. Thanks so much everyone for being there! I'm feeling much better today. Emma.x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Goosey Lucy Posted June 16, 2010 Share Posted June 16, 2010 So sorry to hear of the passing of your friend but good to hear that you're feeling better today x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lewis Posted June 16, 2010 Share Posted June 16, 2010 I'm sorry Emma. I think I read about her before - she does sound like a real character Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
