BeckyBoo Posted November 19, 2008 Share Posted November 19, 2008 .....Morning all, hope you're all well, in response to the lots of lovely messages I've had asking how I am and how things are I thought I'd let you all know that Mr Bertie is back. He is dry (for the last 6 weeks anyway), I've changed my hours at work so instead of working until 2am 6 days every other week I now do 4 day shifts and 2 12 hour shifts so the latest I finish is 10pm which is bliss. I've been getting some sleep!! Which has made a HUGE difference to the house, I'm not so grumpy, stressed, moody, coupled with Mr B's lack of drinking means a much MUCH happier household. I didn't want to post for a long time because I was a bit embarrassed about admitting he was back, didn't want to seem like one of those perpetual victims which I don't want to be. But he asked to come back, he was given the rules (no drink. At all) and, so far, he has stuck to them. I had three very good reasons for letting him in, my three lovely children love their Dad, so I felt I had to give him one more chance. But it is last chance, and I'm not stupid, I'm expecting him to "fall off the wagon" and I will deal with that, what I'm more concerned about is what he does AFTER he falls off, because I'm not going back to how it was. I know from the time he was away how well I can cope, how happy I can be, but I know my children are happier with him here. So, apart from trying to get used to not having all day every day to get stuff done due to that inconvenience called work, things are OK. I will also (avert your eyes now vegetarians and animal lovers) be dispatching our first cocerel for the table over the next week as he signed his own death warrant on Monday by yelling "COCK-A-DOODLE-DOOOOOO!" at the top of his voice! And it's such a shame as he is BEAUTIFUL and a complete wuss - gets chased by all the hens, but he's already started trying to tread on Tilly who is a tiny bantam, and he'll end up really hurting her or even killing her, plus it's a ovely novelty at the minute, but the neighbours won't be impressed soon I'm sure! In a weird kind of way I'm looking forward to it as it's going to feel like a HUGE step forward for me, I can then continue to hatch eggs with our broody hens without worrying what to do with the boys. I've read some of the arrows, congratulations to all the new bumps! There's three at work too, not sure what was going on (or not) on the telly a few weeks ago but some of you were sure busy! Thank you to everyone who has pm'd me, I can'tget on here nearly as much these days with work and stuff so I've been really bad and not managed to reply to half as many as I should. Love to you all, Mrs B Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Dogmother Posted November 19, 2008 Share Posted November 19, 2008 Glad to hear that you're OK Mrs B I hope that OH adheres to his promise and that he's had a long, hard think. Don't worry - we're not going to judge you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cinnamon Posted November 19, 2008 Share Posted November 19, 2008 Great to hear from you - I had been wondering how things have been. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Paola Posted November 19, 2008 Share Posted November 19, 2008 Lovely seeing you Mrs B Hope it works out well with OH. We would not judge you for taking him back. Only you know what is best for you and your family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
poachedegg Posted November 19, 2008 Share Posted November 19, 2008 Glad things are working out for you - "Ooops, word censored!"ody else matters - just what is right for you and your family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mel (& Paul) Posted November 19, 2008 Share Posted November 19, 2008 I am so pleased to hear from you Mrs B - I was only thinking about you last night I am sure you have done the right thing and remember, we are always here for you if you need us Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chickencam Posted November 19, 2008 Share Posted November 19, 2008 I too was thinking about you earlier this week, we all have our fingers crossed for you that this is the beginning of the life you all deserve Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jules. Posted November 19, 2008 Share Posted November 19, 2008 I'm glad to hear things are working out for you, both personally & at work x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Looney Posted November 19, 2008 Share Posted November 19, 2008 So lovely to hear from you Mrs Bertie. I've been wondering how you are so it is great to hear how positive you are and how your home situation has improved. You must always make your own decisions so please, please don't think we will judge you! Your happiness and that of your children is the most important thing. Good luck with saying farewell to your cockerel! xx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jackiepoppies Posted November 19, 2008 Share Posted November 19, 2008 So glad you're in a good place in time for Christmas. I hope Mr Bertie won't jeopardise his last chance with his wonderful family. You coped so well....make sure he knows how well Good luck and my very best wishes for a very happy family future. Jackiex Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
..lay a little egg for me Posted November 19, 2008 Share Posted November 19, 2008 Thanks for the update, I've been wondering how you were doing. It is great that you are able to have Mr B back and I say this because it is clear that you are doing it with your eyes open and you have a plan for what to do should he fall off the wagon. Hopefully, his dry period will be prolonged (my Dad managed 35 years!). Fingers crossed for you. xx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Snowy Posted November 19, 2008 Share Posted November 19, 2008 Hi Mrs B, thanks for the update - you've been missed! For what it's worth, I think you are doing brilliantly - hopefully he has had the short, sharp shock that alcoholics need to make them want to change their ways. Lets just pray that he is able to see it through and you get your lovely hubby back again. (((Big Hugs))) to you and yours. xxx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mutrix Farmers Posted November 19, 2008 Share Posted November 19, 2008 thoughts and prayers are with you Mrs B. You've done a very brave thing allowing him back home and I look forward to hearing happy family news from you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Egg Lou Posted November 19, 2008 Share Posted November 19, 2008 How lovely to hear from you, been wondering how you all are.. glad things are going in the right direction and you are all happier! Best wishes x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Olly Posted November 19, 2008 Share Posted November 19, 2008 Glad to hear your update Mrs B - was wondering how it was going. You sound as if you're in a much better place than you were a couple of months ago. Here's hoping things continue like this, do keep us updated - and as Claret says, we won't judge you on here. You have to do what's best for you and your family. I hope the cockerel is tasty! Full marks to you, I'm too soft to do it but it's the logical conclusion after all. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chickvic Posted November 19, 2008 Share Posted November 19, 2008 Glad everything is going ok, hope your boy is tasty! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
clootie Posted November 19, 2008 Share Posted November 19, 2008 I'm glad things are on the up Mrs B and I hope Christmas is a good one for you and your family. It won't be easy for Mr B but with your support and understanding I'm sure he'll make it just fine. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gamebird Posted November 19, 2008 Share Posted November 19, 2008 I was wondering how you were Mrs B and so glad to hear you sounding so positive. Who are we to judge what you do with your life. It's your family and you must do what you think is best and we are all behind you. The good thing that has come out of this is that you seem much more in control and confident. Good luck with your cockerel, he's had a good life and will have a purpose in death - if that makes sense. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
missuscluck Posted November 19, 2008 Share Posted November 19, 2008 Hi mrs b. Glad to hear you are ok. Hope things continue to go well for you and that you have a lovley Christmas together. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cooks Posted November 19, 2008 Share Posted November 19, 2008 glad to hear your ok Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seagazer Posted November 19, 2008 Share Posted November 19, 2008 As everyone else has said, you must do what is right for you and yours. I'm glad that you are feeling more positive about it all. Good luck to you and your family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted November 19, 2008 Share Posted November 19, 2008 I am really pleased to hear your news and so totally hope it all works out for you. There is nothing better in life than a happy marriage - for you both and for your children. I know the road ahead is still a minefield, but if Mr B can be honest with you, you will be such a strong support for him too and together you can learn to deal with his weakness and stop it spoiling your lives. I really, really wish you both well. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Egluntyne Posted November 19, 2008 Share Posted November 19, 2008 I hope things continue to work out for you Mrs B. All the best. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ain't Nobody Here Posted November 19, 2008 Share Posted November 19, 2008 Lovely to hear your news . Glad things are working out for you all . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Karen & co. Posted November 19, 2008 Share Posted November 19, 2008 Lovely to hear from you wishing you all the best Karen x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
