CallyChook Posted December 17, 2010 Share Posted December 17, 2010 PND- postnatal depression. Sorry folks, but that's why I haven't been on here so much lately. I'm really struggling at the moment to not spend all day sat on the sofa quietly crying. Sometimes I can;t be bothered even getting washed or dressed. I will be back - my best friend, my husband, my health visitor and my doctor are all merrily offeringtheir support and I know I'll feel better at some point. Until then, internet forums just seem like too much effort for anything other than a brief scout of the strictly come dancing chatter. My baby girl is so beautiful, and perfect, and has had no health problems at all to be worried about. She sleeps a bit, isn't overly fussy, and is not a hard baby to look after. My son is turning 4 just after xmas and isa handful but that's nothing new. Hubby, well, I keep thinking about him cheating which is making me so upset, but hopefully I'll get over that sooner rather than later - I'd done so well at not thinking about that for a good few months too! Today I have been sobbing as I was so looking forwards to the fed, in fact that's been my "thing" to keep cheery about for two months. But now it's here,it's not possible for me to go, so I'll be stopping home this weekend again. I hope it's as good as everyone is hoping xx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chicken bark Posted December 17, 2010 Share Posted December 17, 2010 Cally I had been wondering how you'd been getting on. You will get better. Cognitive behaviour therapy helped for me. Will send you a PM. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Dogmother Posted December 17, 2010 Share Posted December 17, 2010 Sorry to hear that Cally - I went through it too. Good luck and get plenty of rest. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sage Posted December 17, 2010 Share Posted December 17, 2010 Hi Cally. Hope you feel better soon. Sending a big hug Sage Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bramble Posted December 17, 2010 Share Posted December 17, 2010 Hello! I really feel for you, PND is very cruel, but you will get better, though I know it's not remotely helpful to hear that from anyone. Small steps is the key, small, small steps. Don't set yourself up to do a big task, break everything down into little ones - eg getting up and dressed - deal with getting out of bed first, then pat yourself on the back for getting that far, then do the next little bit and pat yourself on the back etc. It doesn't matter how tiny the steps are, but for each step you achieve, congratulate yourself. I know it sounds silly, but that really works for me when things seem to hard to cope with. Keep checking in here, we can all send you good vibes then!! Sending you hugs Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seagazer Posted December 17, 2010 Share Posted December 17, 2010 Oh Cally I'm sorry to hear you're feeling that way. I had it with my first baby. Take all the help and advice you can get from your health visitor and doctors. I didn't and mine dragged on a bit. Make sure to try and stay healthy and get rest as if you're feeling ill and tired it will just make you worse. Sending you lots of positive thoughts. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aunty e Posted December 17, 2010 Share Posted December 17, 2010 So sorry to hear you're having a hard time - there will be light at the end of the tunnel, not much help now, but hope it appears soon Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chucknette Posted December 17, 2010 Share Posted December 17, 2010 Hi Cally Sorry you are feeling so low at the moment. I have been there too with my first born. The only advise I have is that you must eat properly. I was making sure my husband and baby were fed but felt too tired to eat anything myself. Your body has worked really hard over the months of pregnancy and needs some TLC now. Also, the ray of sunshine is that it will go and you will feel more like your old self. And another thing will be that you have gained experience to help another woman going through the same. Just like the ladies helping you on this forum. Take care. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
goodinparts Posted December 17, 2010 Share Posted December 17, 2010 Oh Callie, I'm so sorry. Take all the help that's offered, & know that we're all thinking of you and wishing you well and will be so happy to see you when the sun shines for you once more. Love and prayers xx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Reikiranf Posted December 17, 2010 Share Posted December 17, 2010 I'm so sorry to hear that Cally, good advice from fellow omleteers as always and I just want to wish you all the best and hope that things look brighter for you very soon Amanda xxx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alis girls Posted December 17, 2010 Share Posted December 17, 2010 Had it bad with 1st child and not so bad with 2nd. There is light at the end of the tunnel but you probably dont see it yet. See your Dr - you might need antidepressants and they may be able to find on thats ok with breast feeding. Take any help offered, get some rest if you can and if you can see if you can get some "me" time. I joined a night class after several months - just to get out without baby. Like a lot of mums with PND you are trying to be the perfect mum, wife etc. you can only be the best you can. Please see your GP and ask for help. I could have cried for Europe (I'm surprised OH didnt move into a boat) but believe me it will pass - 15 years down the line it seems like a bad dream - I now can spot a depressed mum very handy as I'm a Practice Nurse and can alert the Doctors if they dont already know. Please PM me if you need a chat. Love Ali x PS the worries re your OH are part of the illness - I'ms sure hes worried about you. You will get thro. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
craftyhunnypie Posted December 17, 2010 Share Posted December 17, 2010 Aww so sorry I can't advise as I don't have children. I was once bullied though & sunk into a depression, so I do sympathise. I wanted to send lots of hugs your way. You're a beautiful person & you will get through this. Like others say - don't rush things & take a minute each day to do something that makes you feel a teeny bit better. Even if that is just putting a spray of perfume on or having a cup of tea at a set time. It is your little moment each day. Lots of love.. Emma.x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Plum Posted December 17, 2010 Share Posted December 17, 2010 Sorry to hear it and like the others say take time to get better. Help from GP or Psychologist can make all the difference. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Daphne Posted December 17, 2010 Share Posted December 17, 2010 Thinking of you Cally. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scarlettohara Posted December 17, 2010 Share Posted December 17, 2010 I'm so sorry Cally, I suffer from depression and it can be awful but you will get better, take all the help you can get. If it's any consolation I was looking forward to staying with my cousins this weekend but the snow has put a stop to that Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Couperwife Posted December 17, 2010 Share Posted December 17, 2010 lots of love and hugs Cally cathy x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chickencam Posted December 17, 2010 Share Posted December 17, 2010 Love and hugs from me too, just hang on in there it will get better. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Blackrocksrock Posted December 17, 2010 Share Posted December 17, 2010 aww bless hugs from me too - there is a light at the end of that tunnell and you have a lovely family Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
whoopsie Posted December 17, 2010 Share Posted December 17, 2010 Dear Cally Sending you lots of love and hugs. I hope you feel better soon. There are many therapies to help if you need them and I would suggest contacting MAMA - a charity set up by Esther Rantzen to support women. xx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sadietoo Posted December 17, 2010 Share Posted December 17, 2010 I'm so sorry to hear you have PND Cally.. I had it with my first child, and so I entirely sympathise. I can only echo what everyone else has told you...concentrate on the small day to day stuff, getting up, dressed, eating and keeping yourself hydrated...crying is allowable.(when your DS can't see you) ..I used to cry in the bath...there's something cathartic about being surrounded by so much water!! ...It's a horrible thing, I didn't talk to my Health Visitor about it because I didn't want to be prescribed drugs..(my mother was a manic depressive in the bad dark days of the 60's and 70's when all sorts of awful addictive drugs were prescribed - and whilst I know it isn't like that now, it left a lasting impression on me and I've given medicine a wide berth wherever possible since). Fortunately my PND left me as suddenly as it arrived and I really hope the same happens to you...I just got up one day and felt better! In the meantime, thinking of you and sending hugsxxxxx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lesley Posted December 17, 2010 Share Posted December 17, 2010 Sorry to hear that Cally - I was wondering where you were. My daughter had PND after the birth of her second and, like you, everything was going so well for her, baby was good, life was good.........there is often no rhyme nor reason with PND. I had to trick her into an appt. with the GP as she wouldn't talk about it at all, even to me. There was one anti-depressant she could take whilst breastfeeding and it wasn't a great help but the act of talking to the GP and openly admitting she had a problem helped and slowly she began to feel better. Tiny steps - and take any help offered. Hope you can see the light at the end of the tunnel soon. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sparkysmum Posted December 18, 2010 Share Posted December 18, 2010 Cally, I'm so sorry to hear you're feeling poorly. I have no real experience of this, so just sending my love. Alli xx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CallyChook Posted December 22, 2010 Author Share Posted December 22, 2010 thanks for the nice thoughts and wishes everyone. Had a good weekend - it was hubby's birthday on sunday and i tried my best at being cheery. this week my son and me have been taking the opportunity to snuggle on the couch while baby's asleep, watching disney movies. it's been kinda nice. xx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lesley Posted December 22, 2010 Share Posted December 22, 2010 Nice to see you back - and sounding a lot more positive Cally, make the most of being able to rest . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alis girls Posted December 23, 2010 Share Posted December 23, 2010 Lovely - cant think of anything nicer than a Disney movie, couch and a little person to snuggle up to. Ali x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
