Ain't Nobody Here Posted December 28, 2012 Share Posted December 28, 2012 Sadly, things have reverted to the norm with my mum. A few weeks ago (following a visit from my brother) she turned nasty again so I've not spoken to her since then. Just had a long chat with my cousin, the only relative she is fond of. He phoned mum on her birthday (26th Dec) and was told she hates me, I'm only after her money, I stood over her and made her sign things and she's taken out an injunction so I can't go near her (which is rubbish, I suspect I'd have been told ). Unfortunately, he said she sounded completely lucid and rational so you'd only know she's talking complete rubbish if you know the whole story. I know I've said it many times before, but this time I will be staying away. I'd rather spend time with family and friends who do care about me and don't make it hard work to be with them. My brother is welcome to everything. I hope it makes him happy. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Willow Posted December 28, 2012 Share Posted December 28, 2012 Oh dear, was afraid that would happen. New year soon - good time to refocus on those you are close to. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WitchHazel Posted December 28, 2012 Share Posted December 28, 2012 Sorry to hear about this. I know it's difficult to walk away, sounds like it would be best if you could. It's especially difficult when it's a close relative, there are those invisible cords which are incredibly hard to break. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Purplemaniacs Posted December 28, 2012 Share Posted December 28, 2012 Sorry to hear this development ANH. Families are so difficult at times. If you can manage it I think you are right to concentrate on the family that loves and needs you. Hugs from down south Chrissie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheGirlsMum Posted December 28, 2012 Share Posted December 28, 2012 So sorry Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Couperwife Posted December 28, 2012 Share Posted December 28, 2012 Sending hugs. Xx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Charlottechicken Posted December 28, 2012 Share Posted December 28, 2012 So sorry. After all the efforts you have made in the past it must be especially galling, but I think you are right to walk away with your head held high (and your sanity still intact!). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lesley Posted December 28, 2012 Share Posted December 28, 2012 I agree. It's difficult to distance yourself - but sometimes it is the right thing to do. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bluekarin Posted December 28, 2012 Share Posted December 28, 2012 I am so sorry to hear this, especially after how well things have been. Sadly, I think she is too old to change, and really I think your brother is welcome to her. Let them wallow in their own misery, and you enjoy your life with the people you have chosen to be with and that love you. Great big ((((hugs)))) as she is still your mum and this must be very hard. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cheeky Chooky Posted December 28, 2012 Share Posted December 28, 2012 Sorry to read this ANH *Hugs* from me too x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
freddie Posted December 28, 2012 Share Posted December 28, 2012 This is all about money, as she has it and he so desp wants it. Shame on him. Leave them to it, and enjoy your family and your life. It's always down to money. My family were/are the same. Hardly any of us speak now. Sad but freeing, once the initail sting is over. Have a better New year.Xx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Goosey Lucy Posted December 28, 2012 Share Posted December 28, 2012 I'm so sorry it's all gone wrong again. I agree wholeheartedly with what Freddie said. Hugs from across the water x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chickencam Posted December 28, 2012 Share Posted December 28, 2012 Move on and don't look back ((hugs)) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LolaLayla Posted December 28, 2012 Share Posted December 28, 2012 How upsetting for you. I am so sorry. Take care of yourself. X Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sparkysmum Posted December 29, 2012 Share Posted December 29, 2012 So sorry to hear this ANH. You have tried so hard & could not have done more. Was flicking through some quotations the other day and found this " Things today mayn't be great, but they are not bad, and thats good" It made me smile a little. Alli x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Dogmother Posted December 29, 2012 Share Posted December 29, 2012 I'm so sorry to hear that, especially at this time of year. I agree with the severing of ties, if only for your own sanity. My ex had to do the same when his mum was still alive and had mental health issues. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chuckmum6 Posted December 29, 2012 Share Posted December 29, 2012 I have had to do this with my dad, life was to painful having contact. I am happier without the stress, but it is still a loss and is a regret to an extent. I too have tried on many occasions but like you for ones own sanity and well being you have to resign yourself and draw a line. My dad has done some horrid things to my mum when she was alive and to my brother and me, it needed to stop and severing ties is the only way. All the very best to you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
soapdragon Posted December 29, 2012 Share Posted December 29, 2012 Sad to hear this but you need to move on and not stress about it any longer! I have severed ties with my Dad and actually feel better for it; no more worry/angst/stress etc! Time to move forward! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Groovychook Posted December 29, 2012 Share Posted December 29, 2012 I'm really sorry to hear that your relationship with your Mum has broken down again. I'd hoped for you that things might have turned a corner. Thinking of you xx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Luvachicken Posted December 29, 2012 Share Posted December 29, 2012 I'm so sorry things haven't worked out for you. I hope that 2013 will be a much happier year for you. Best wishes and much love to you xxxxxx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cinnamon Posted December 29, 2012 Share Posted December 29, 2012 Chin up,chest out,deep breath & move forward. I would sever all ties - no phone contact....even to the point of blocking numbers if necessary. It won't be easy,but you need to be strong & carry on for the sake of those you love. I am a great believer in what comes around goes around - your brother will get what he deserves eventually. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seagazer Posted December 29, 2012 Share Posted December 29, 2012 I'm so sorry Vicki that this has happened again. I think if you can be strong and sever all contact it might be the best way forward. My cousin has a similar thing with her mum, she keeps getting hurt and its not really worth it for the scant contact that she has. Sending (((big hugs))). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jules. Posted December 29, 2012 Share Posted December 29, 2012 So sorry, sending you some (((hugs))) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
abwsco Posted December 29, 2012 Share Posted December 29, 2012 Sorry to read this Vicki. Loads of {{{{{{HUGS}}}}}} from me as well xxxxx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
